Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatulahi wa barakatuh sister,

 

It sounds like you have e faced a lot of complications in proceeding with this marriage which is making you very distressed understandably. Now since it did not go ahead when it was intended that has opened the doors for r further complications regarding his parents which is only adding to the stress of it all.

 

Of course, you want to try and make this marriage happen as soon as possible to put an end to all the stress and move on with married life, but with things being very heated at the moment and interference from he parents you are left feeling even more frustrated.

 

The first thing you are doing is the best thing to do; praying and making du’a. Never give up on this and continue asking for Allah’s guidance. Not only will this allow guide you to don’t he best thing in your situation, but it will bring you comfort more generally during a tough time. This will indirectly help you to approach the situation more appropriately as you are calm and focused.

 

There are several different ways in which you can approach the situation,  but do be sure to give them some serious thought before making a choice. Make istikhara regularly and allow Allah to make things happen in the way that is best for you all. To take a more forward approach you could just go ahead and get married against his parents wishes as it is nt a must for them to approve of the wedding. This way, you will get your marriage quickly,  however,  this route may come at a heavy cost in terms of future relations with his family which may ultimately have a devastating impact on your marriage further down the line.

 

Another approach is to arrange to meet his family with members of your own and talk about it openly as a big family. Let them see that you are a good person from a good family and you are serious about marrying their son.

 

Another option is to just set bit aside and leave him to work on his family and come to you when he is ready for marriage if it is mentioned to be and is good for you, then Allah will surely make it happen and if your potential husband abandons it then may be it was never meant to be and you would be able to determine this yourself as he is not serious about moving things forward. This way you are distancing yourself from the stress and allowing yourself to relax a bit as things settle down.

 

Contemplate over your options, take them to Allah and ask for His guidance. Whatever happens, feel content that Allah is the best of planners and whatever happens is what is meant for you and what is best for you.

 

May Allah guide you and grant you a righteous spouse when the time is right.