Wa alaykum assalam warahmatullah wabarakatuh
In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving
All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.
Asexuality seems to be a very problematic term, because it is more related to feelings. There is no litmus test to determine if someone is asexual. Even scientific researchers have differed whether it could be a sexual orientation.
Asexuality is generally defined as the lack of sexual attraction or the lack of sexual interest. But it does not mean inability to have sex. Some asexual persons may engage in sexual activities, despite lacking sexual attraction or a desire for sex, due to a variety of reasons, such as a desire to please romantic partners or a desire to have children.
Some asexual persons may engage in purely romantic relationships. This means that even if an asexual person wants to have a relationship without having sex, he may have sex to please the other partner.
Anyway, on the one hand, I would advise you to visit a psychotherapist to seek advice. Perhaps you need some therapy to such sexual aversion.
On the other hand, Islam encourages its followers to lead a life of total submission and obedience to Allah. This is the life that leads to salvation and Paradise. Being married or unmarried makes no difference.
Marriage, of course, is exhorted to by Islam in order to achieve sublime goals for the benefit of both the individuals and the community. But if one has problems or medical reasons that prevent him/her from marriage or that will likely damage their marital relationship, still he/she can lead such a righteous life.
The Quran has set Marry, the Virgin, as an example of chastity and devoutness for believers “Moreover, there is Mary, daughter of Imran, who [estimably] safeguarded her chastity. Then We breathed into her [womb] of Our [life-giving] spirit. For she confirmed the [revealed] words of her Lord and His [Heavenly] Books. Indeed, she was ever of those who are devoutly obedient.” [66:12]
So, sister, you may take Lady Mary as your role model and follow her example to meet her in the Paradise.
May Allah help and protect you.
Almighty Allah knows best.
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