Shokran for writing to our live session. While you did not provide any details such as your teens mental health history, if there were any attempts in the past or if she has a doctor/counselor or if she is on medication, I can only provide you with basic information. It is advised to talk with your teen and take their threats of suicide seriously. “Research indicates that up to 80% of suicidal people signal their intentions to others, in the hope that the signal will be recognized as a cry for help”. (1)

Please do evaluate your teen. Ask your teen to describe what he/she is feeling, are they depressed, how long has this been going on (thoughts of suicide), if there has been any trauma to cause this and ask how can you help. Ask your teen the following: If he/she has a plan or method chosen for suicide, “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?” “Would you still want to die if your circumstances changed? “Do you want to go to the hospital”? During your conversation with your teen, please do acknowledgment and validate your teens pain.

Sometimes people who truly intend to kill themselves may deny depression, trauma or intent to commit suicide as they have made up their mind and intend to be successful. They may even appear happy. According to the Crisis Intervention and Suicide Prevention Center of B.C. (1) “Sometimes, a suicidal person might feel relief that they have finally come to a decision – the emotional conflict over living or dying has been resolved”.

Many who are severely depressed do not wish to continue to live, yet do not really want to die, but just want to be out of pain. These people may attempt suicide in order to get help or relief. The danger is that many do die in these attempts. Please see (2).

Ask your teen to draw up a contract. The contract should state that your teen (name) will promise not to harm her/himself and that if your teen feels she/he will harm self that they will immediately tell you or someone they trust. Give your teen the suicide hotline number (3). If this is an emergency situation, meaning your teen is actively crying, psychotic, has a plan, is determined, or you otherwise feel there is danger, stay with your teen until help arrives (call 911) or take your teen to the emergency room if he/she will let you.

If your teen does not appear to be serious and openly discusses with you what they are feeling and why they have suicidal ideation, please do make a same day or next day appointment with your teens doctor or counselor for an evaluation. Stay with your teen until you take him/her to the appointment so you can monitor.
Insha’Allah you will find some of this useful, may Allah swt grant ease and bless and protect your teen and you. You are in our prayers.

1-https://crisiscentre.bc.ca/frequently-asked-questions-about-suicide/
2-https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/happiness-in-world/201004/the-six-reasons-people-attempt-suicide
3-https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/