Wa alaikum salaam wa Rahmatullah wa barakahtuh,

 

You are right to be concerned about the kind of things that your daughter is engaged in at a young age as these things can easily lead her stray in the future. Unfortunately, your wife doesn’t seem to be helping the situation, but there are some things you can do to try and improve the situation.

 

* Talk to your wife about your concerns and why it bothers you. For someone who had newly entered Islam they may not understand the problem and so need it explaining to them.

 

* Remember that she came from a background where she was not raised as a Muslim so things like Halloween will be normal to her. Not only will it be difficult for her to see the harm in it at this point, but it may be difficult for her to separate herself from the things that brought her happiness previously.

 

* Be a good role model to her. It may be that talking to her about it may make her feel like you are preaching to her and she may not respond favorably, but you can influence her more indirectly. As she accepted Islam even though she ceased practicing for now, it will be much easier for her to come back.

 

Make sure to pray in front of her, read Qur’an and make du’a etc in front of her and be a positive influence in this way. Each time you pray, invite her to join you and do not turn it into an argument if she doesn’t as this would also give a negative image to your daughter. Likewise, with your daughter, invite her to join you too. Maybe they will not be bothered at first, but as they watch you over time, in sha Allah they will feel inclined to join in.

 

* Make Fridays special. One of the most difficult things for people to accept when leaving another religion and becoming a Muslim is to leave behind the celebrations that they once enjoyed. This can make Islam seem quite dull and unappealing when it shouldn’t be. Instead, make Friday a special day. A day to look forward to every week. A day when they get to dress up in their best clothes and maybe eat a treat and cook a special evening meal. This way, they won’t felt the need to get excitement out of celebrations such as Halloween.

 

* Most importantly, continue to pray for their guidance and Allah can guide who He wants when He wants regardless if they have gone astray from the path.

 

May Allah guide your family on the straight path and reward your concern for ensuring an Islamic up bring for your daughter