Wa to salaam wa r,wa I sister,

 

It is understandable that you are anxious about what married life will be like and how it will change things for you. These concerns aI’llfor you given that it is your sisters who are helping to find your spouse since your parents arE unable and they have spouses who have very different ideas about the role of the woman in the home.

 

It is advisable at this point that you try not to bother yourself too much about this at the moment as you have no idea who your spouse will be. It may be that he will be happy for you to continue studying and all your worries right now will have been for no reason.

 

Instead, perhaps I’m could suggest to your sisters that youbhave a part in selecting your spouse. Give them some criteria that you are ideally looking I. Although, you may not find an exact match, as long as you have a pious spouse on the straight path you will have a happy marriage based o the values of Islam.

 

Also, as part of the process, you should be allowed to meet any potential suitors. Under the acceptable conditions of course with your Mahram present. So you can even discuss your concerns with him and get a feel for his thoughts regarding you studying.

 

Of course, you then have the choice as to whether to go ahead with this marriage. So, in sha Allah allows this someone will come your way who will allow you to study, but if not,  then if he is a good man, who will treat you well, then you will be happy to step down from sI’llfor a time. Also, it is always possible to back to it at a later date once you have settled into your marriage. So, either way, all is not lost.

 

May Allah grant you a righteous spouse who will be the coolness of your eyes in this life and the next.