Wa alaikum salaam wa rahmatulahi wa barakatuh,

This can be a very distressing situation for people to face, especially for women due to our biological clocks, but, like you say, you are not alone, there are many women also in the same situation. However, there are many reasons why we desire to get married as well as it being something recommended and regarded so highly in Islam. There are a few things that you can consider in your situation that made give you an alternative perspective or encourage you to think about things that you have perhaps overlooked due to you heavy focus on the matter.

– Ask yourself if you are being too fussy. Have you received offers but are turning them down? If so, remember the most important things in a spouse, in particular, a man of strong faith is the most desirable trait. Most of the other stuff you will come to love after time together anyway. At least if his he is a pious man you can be confident that you will be treated in the respectful way that you probably desire. That’s not to say that you should just marry anyone without consideration, but broaden your horizons and be more open to different kinds of people.

– Are you actively searching? You can’t always just rely on someone coming to you with a proposal. Instead, let friends and family know you are searching and they can put the word out. You could even get the message to your local imam who will know of any single brothers seeking marriage also.

– Make du’a. Allah loves to answer people’s prayers. If you are not asking then He might not give you, so continue to be persistent asking Allah to guide you towards marriage.
– Be patient. This is easy to say, but difficult to do when you feel like you have been waiting forever. Be confident that Allah will answer you when the time is right, and He is the best of planners.

– Never give up hope. If you continue to pray and stay firm in faith, Allah will find a way. Never give up hope on Allah.

– Allah is the best of planners. Maybe the right man for you did not cross your path yet because Allah is waiting until the moment that is right for you.

– Constantly thinking about it and stressing about it will only make things more difficult for you. Making it into a burden and constantly on your mind is not healthy. Therefore, keep busy in other meaningful and productive things also, so this does not become your constant focus. You have clearly said that you constantly focus on it, and it is effecting your faith, so this is something particularly important for you to consider.

May Allah give you the strength and patience to endure your difficulties. May He soon grant you a spouse that will be the coolness of your eyes.