Q:

Assalamu alaikum. Today my father was driving with my family. He had passed our home and wanted to take me to the pharmacy. However I had a grandmother who could easily pick up my stuff for me. I told my father twice “stop the car and let me out” He refused. Legally this falls under the definition of kidnapping. I also hold anger at him for previous emotionally abuse that he still does sometimes. He didn’t mean any harm however I don’t want to tolerate his emotional abuse anymore as he often makes me cry. Islamically can I have him arrested with kidnapping? Jazakhallah khairun

I have anger issues as well so I hold grudges a lot.

A:

Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

I would urge you to speak to your doctor; he will refer you to a counselor who would help you overcome the challenges you are facing from your dad.

The actions of your father you described above should not lead you to take such extreme measures. You need to tolerate your dad’s less than ideal behavior unless he is physically abusive, in which case, you need to take steps to stop it.

Perhaps you should speak to some elder relatives in your family who should be able to help you to sort out your problems with your dad. If that does not help, then you should speak to the Imam of the mosque you and your father attend.

I pray to Allah to help you resolve your issues with your father amicably and peacefully and help you maintain good relations with him.

Allah Almighty knows best.