There are numerous instructions in the Qur’an and the Sunnah that command Muslims to be dutiful toward their parents. Allah Almighty says ”Moreover, [God has said]: We have charged each human being with [dutifulness and goodness toward] one’s parents. One’s mother bore one in feebleness upon feebleness, and [the full period of] one’s weaning is within two years. So give thanks to Me and to your parents. To Me is the ultimate destiny.” (Luqman 31:14)

In one famous narration, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) was asked about the person who is most deserving of one’s good company and his answer was “Your mother”, which he repeated 3 times, and then in the fourth one he said, “Your father.”

However, a general principle founded by a prophetic statement states that “No obedience is due for any created being in disobeying the Creator”. This is also supported by the Qur’anic verse that comes right after the above cited one and that reads “But if ever they strive in order to compel you to associate gods with Me- [or command you to anything] about which you have no [sure] knowledge [from God]- then do not obey them. Yet [still] keep company with both of them in this world, in accordance with what is right. But follow the path of one who turns to Me in penitence.” (Luqman 31:15)

This verse simply solves your problem. Parents are not always right, but still we have to be dutiful to them and treat them kindly. When they make mistakes or command us to disobey Allah, we may not obey them or follow them in their mistakes. But still we have to keep a good company with them and try to give them advice as far as we can.

A Muslim has to keep this balanced attitude. Your mother misunderstands her role as a parent, but this is not a reason for you to be disrespectful or undutiful to her.

I advise you, brother, to find a good and pious friend, attend prayers and lectures at the mosque, to keep your time busy with reading the Qur’an and observing Islamic teachings. Ask Allah, most high, to guide your mother and to help you be dutiful to her.

Allah Almighty knows best.