As salamu alaykum,

 

Shokran for writing to our live session sister. as I understand, you are having reoccurring dreams involving a man whom you are not married to but whom you do know. In the first dream, everything had lots of noor and he smiled.  In the second one, you both were in an unknown home in your comfiest, and he looked a bit older. In the next one you both are kissing and he asked you to marry him. You said you are insecure about some things. He said he did not care, and you continued kissing on the bed and then his family walked in. In the last dream, someone else proposed to you when you and the other guy were not getting along and he got upset and told you not to marry him.

 

Sister, I am not familiar with interpreting dreams but perhaps you are dreaming about this person because you have unresolved feelings about him.  As you did not specify if this was someone you were talking to or actually engaged in a relationship with it is hard to say.  It seems that these dreams progress from purity (him being dressed in white and smiled at you and had noor) to sinfulness.  The fact that you both were in a bed kissing and not married is indicative that it is not a good thing from Allah.  Also, his whole family walking in at this time may represent exposure. The fact that this person looks older in the second dream sounds like it is someone who you may have liked but he is not as serious as it is years and years that you see each other (in your dream) doing haram and not marrying.

 

In your dream, you stated “I  am insecure about some things” when he proposed.  You may want to look at what these insecurity issues could possibly be in real life as often dreams are an indicator of our subconscious.   Unless you had a specific relationship with this person, I do not feel these dreams are about the guy but more about you and your internal struggles.  He just happens to be the vehicle through which the unconscious is unraveling.

 

The other guy (in real life) who did ask to marry you may be stirring emotions in you such as fear of getting hurt, feelings of current or future jealousy, and generally cause you to feel upset.  Commitment can be a scary unknown.  Sometimes “dreams” of romance can be a safer option for the unconscious (or conscious) fears-issues we have.  It is not surprising that your mind went to this “safe” place after the real-life guy proposed.   It seems that in all three of these dreams you appear to feel “safe”.  Please evaluate insha’Allah, how you feel in real life situations (such as personal connections and commitments) in terms of emotional safety.

 

This guy who you keep dreaming about may be representative of your own self-your feelings of your closeness with Allah to insecurities or fears that most humans have.   For example-going from feeling secure and close to Allah (noor) and hopeful for a wonderful marriage-to growing older and waiting (second dream) to feeling hopeless, conflicted and exposed (third dream).  Of course, this is all speculation sister.  I encourage you insha’Allah, to explore how you feel about each dream and what emotion it causes you to feel.  This will help a lot in getting a glimpse into what the dream may be about.  When you resolve any issues you may be feeling/experiencing you may find the dreams stop.

 

I wouldn’t put too much emphasis on these dreams sister except for inner reflection.  Reoccurring dreams can be disturbing and make us curious but they are usually related to self (unless we see the prophet (PBUH) in a dream or we made istakharrah prayer).  There are times when the shaitan comes into our dreams (nightmares) but this doesn’t sound like that, nonetheless, please do get in touch with the emotions that the dreams bring out and do some self-introspection.  Lastly and most important, take refuge in Allah and make duaa for the dreams to be resolved.  We wish you the best.