As salamu alaykum brother,

 

I am sorry to hear of your troubles with your wife.  As I understand it, you married a lady and she became Musim and now there are some problems?  While you did not give a lot of information such as how long you have been married, if you ever met each other in person or lived together; or what kind of problems you are having and why-I will do my best.

 

Brother, as you both are living in different countries it is often difficult to mintain a marriage, especially if it is a new marrige.  Marraiages usually need nuturing times as well as together timesin order that two people may get to know one another. This is very crucial to developing a bond between two people.  I would kindly suggest that if you are able, that you go to your wife in the UK and try to work out your marriage issues.  If that is not possible, try to bring her to you.  Insha’Allah if you can get together, you can save the marriage.  Too often, a good relationship can be ruined through mis-communication or poor communication.  It is difficult enough trying to build a marriage and get to know one another when two people are together, but when two people are not even living together, it gets compounded.  Therefore I would kindly advise that you do try your hardest to find a solution to the situation of living a part.  Perhaps this has added to your issues, I do not know as you were not specific.

 

Also, as I gather she is new to Islam.  Insha’Allah she has someone in the UK to help guide her in her islam so that she does not feel alone and lost.  You actually should be the one to do this however as you are not physically together it is not possible.  It could be she is feeling lonely, confused and irritated that you are not with her  brother.  As taking shahada is one of the most significant things a human being can do, I am sure she is feeling some kind of way about being left  on her own to walk this path of gaining knowledge and support.  May Allah grant ease.

 

Please do talk with your wife brother if possible and try to work something out in regards to being together.  Even if it is just a trip to start out with to try to resolve your issues  with a short term goal to be together at least you can see each other face to face to try to resolve your problems insha’allah.  I would kindly suggest dear brother that you seek the assistance of her family or yours if you cannot get in touch with her as she blocked you.  Often times when one is upset and the relationship is a long distant one-it is to easy to block.  Often hastily done, she may unblock you soon  if she knows deep down that you do love her and desire to work this out.

 

As you mentioned that you do not eat or drink , I can imagine you are feeling very stressed out brother and possibly depressed.  Insha’Allah I kindly sugest that you try to reduce your stress levels as well as your time spent worrying. You can do this by focusing on positive outcomes for this situation such as making plans to visit her (or bring her to you);  make duaa to Allah that He grant ease and mecy and bless your marriage;  seek out counseling if the non-eating/drinking continues as well as seek out the support of your close brothers who may get your mind thinking towards a positive way.  Often times, our friends have been through similar situations as us and can offer great insight and support insha’Allah.  If you do have close friends such as these, please do seek their companionship.

 

Brother, insha’Allah, do try to find a way to see your wife with the goal of living together in the near future, if needed ask family for assistance in reaching her.  Have a plan of action in place to discuss with her ,as well as other supports that she may need as a new Muslim and a new wife.  Please be good to yourself and know that we all go throuh tests and trials in this life.  You sound like you are newly married therefore there will be some ‘bumps” and hard times in this process, especuially as you do not live together yet.  Please know this is normal but also know that insha’Allah the sitution must be remedied.  Insha’Allah she will unblock you and -or you will get a hold of her another way to begin to heal your marrige.  Marriage is a committment that is not always smooth sailing, but has many blessings once you learn to navigate it.   Please let us know how you are doing, you are in our prayers.