Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatulahi wa barakatuh brother,

 

Being torn between your obligation to your husband as well as to your parents when they don’t get on is difficult. You have obligations to respect and obey both your husband and parents except if they advise you against Islam. However,  we are also told to maintain family ties, son cutting none off is also not an option.

 

The difficult thing for you is that you are the one in the middle son feel the pressure from both sides. However,  you can also nude this to your advantage and be the bridge between everyone to unite and bring them together again.

 

Perhaps you could just begin small by going to see your parents, with your husband every now and again for small visits, enough for a quick chat and maintaining ties yet enough to not be overwhelming or cause any disagreements. As the relationship is strengthened you could increase the time and frequency as things get more comfortable.

 

Knowing all the parties involved, if there are any things that they have in common you can unite them in this. For Example, if they have similar tastes in movies, hobbies or foods then you could do something related to this where a common interest is shared that will stimulate conversation on passion shared by all. This gives them the opportunity to talk and build relations more casually around something not related to the family.

 

Otherwise, there are more direct approaches such as seeking family counselling, either with your local imam or a local counselling service and allowing all parties to say their piece facilitated by a neutral person. Often family disputes can be borne out of underlying assumptions that the other is unaware of or something very simple that can be overcome just by talking about it openly. Alternatively, if you feel confident and comfortable to then you could even have this discussion at home.

 

May Allah make things easy for you and bring peace to your household once more.