Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

I remember when some kids asked their mom which one of us is more beloved than the other to her she said: “the one travelling until he comes back, the one sick until he feels better, the one needs help until I serve him etc.”

 

In other words, hearts are always customized based on type of people, circumstances, favors, and many other factors. Having feelings towards one son who is always next to his mom, giving her money, supporting her will never cancel her love to the son who is away and barely visits!

 

The same thing happens in marriage. Nothing is perfect even with one wife. In one day feelings can go up and down ten times a day but at the end; respect, ethics, good treatment and fairness in spending time and financial support will create a good relationship that people can cope with.

 

Taking more than one wife is a personal decision for multiple reasons. As men can divorce wives also wives can ask for Khul` if she feels she cannot tolerate marriage with her husband marrying another woman or for any other legitimate reason.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.