Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

First, congratulations for Allah’s guidance. May Allah keep you steadfast on His path.

 

Second, the very essence of Islam is to feel and express full submission to Allah and His injunctions. Almighty Allah says in the Quran what means “Thus it is not ever [befitting] for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter, to have for themselves a [contrary] choice in their affairs. For whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has truly strayed into clear misguidance.” (Al-Ahzab 33:36)

 

Regarding your case, there is a clear Quranic injunction that reads, “O you who believe! When believing women come to you as Émigrés, test their [sincerity]- and it is Allah [alone] who knows best about their faith.  Thus if you find them to be believing women, then do not return them to the disbelievers. They are not lawful [wives] for them. Nor are [the disbelievers] lawful [husbands] for them.“ (Al-Mumtahinah 60:10)

 

This means that he is no longer a lawful husband for you unless he embraces Islam. In fact, you should observe `iddah (waiting period) of three menstrual periods during which if your husband does not accept it, you may look for another Muslim husband.

 

My advice to you to overcome this hard time is to work hard to strengthen and increase your faith to be able to comply with Islamic teachings with love and content. You have to believe firmly that it is Allah who manages the affairs of our life and that whatever He has decreed and chosen for us is based on His all-encompassing Knowledge and comprehensive wisdom.

 

You may pray to Allah earnestly to guide the heart of your husband to Islam. You may also talk to your husband and try to show to him the magnificence of Islam and how it is the only way of salvation.

 

Sister, put your trust in Allah and leave it for Him. You say that your husband is the only one who understands and treats you well. But you do not know what Allah has prepared for you. You need to know that Allah loves you because He has guided you to Islam. So, now you have to love and fully trust Him. He may guide your husband to Islam and may also grant you a better husband.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.