I always hope that both spouses look at their things they own as one unit and not separate. His car is yours and yours is his.

 

Now I agree it will be lot easier to cope with such concept if husband shows level of responsibility and common sense in handling personal decisions. When one marries, the priority is for the family as a whole not the individualism.

 

In the example you gave, it showed more focus on his well-being than the family as a whole. He must be advised to provide you with the best car for your safety and the safety of the new future born child.

 

A wife can always get a job if it does not take her away from her responsibilities at home and by permission of her husband.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.