I ask Allah the Almighty to bring ease to your heart and grant you patience for the loss of your baby and insha Allah with such faith in you, Allah the Almighty will grant you higher places in heaven Ameen.
I would like to say two things.
First, the idea of blaming yourself for not being there or that medicine could have been given to him in a better way is a mere status of grieve from your conscious not a fact that it will change the Qadar or destiny set by Allah.
No mom on earth can be with her kids 24/7. Family members like your parents, or the child siblings will always give you support like any other family. So do not blame yourself on a matter that in reality we know it is not possible.
The other thing, giving medicine by you or your parents is a normal procedure that has to do with the outside part of the baby’s mouth. From what I understood from your words it was the way the baby swallowed the medicine that affected his wellness and caused him to be blue. This matter neither you nor parents nor doctors hve the ability to control at all. It was his Qadar to go through such phase and ended up being with His Lord in Heaven insha Allah.
Second, the loss of a child is on one side very painful. The Prophet (peace be upon him) lost his child Ibrahim (may Allah be pleased with him) and for that he grieved, cried and felt the pain of loss. But at the same time he accepted Qadar and as a matter of fact the Prophet (peace be upon him) buried all his kids, all of them died before him young or old except for Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with him) died after him in few months.
At the Day of Judgment, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said that kids who died under the age of puberty will go to Heaven with accountability for they are pure from sins. These kids will refuse to go unless the take the hands of their parents and enter with them to Heaven and Allah the Almighty will tell angels to allow them with their parents to Heaven.
I ask Allah the Almighty to grant you Heaven with all your family and give you Sabr, Ameen.
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