Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

May Allah grant you patience for your loss and help you in raising your kinds.

It is a great responsibility to educate and raise this number of kids. Those who advise you to remarry keep in mind your needs as a man for a wife and your needs as a father for someone to share this responsibility with you. This, of course, because they suppose that you will find an understanding and helpful wife; but you might fear of not finding the right woman and thus bring more trouble to yourself and your children.

Marriage in Islam is not obligatory unless you find it difficult to control your sexual desire and commit related sins as a result. Still the Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “He who can afford to marry should marry, because it will help him refrain from looking at other women, and save his private parts from committing illegal sexual relation; and he who cannot afford to marry is advised to fast, as fasting will diminish his sexual power.”

I would advise you to keep the door open for the possibility of remarrying. Perhaps one day you find a good woman who takes care of you and your children. Meanwhile, take care of your children and seek the help of Allah and pray istikharah before making any decision.

Almighty Allah knows best.