Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

It is entirely wrong for anyone to entertain such thoughts in regards to one’s wife.

 

It is at once cruel and inhuman for a husband to look down or slight his wife because of her ill-health even as it is cruel and inhuman on the part of a wife to look down or slight her husband because of his ill-health. It works both ways.

 

Islam considers spouses as equal partners each one loving, respecting and caring for the other as one would care for oneself.

 

A husband owes his sick wife to care for her and look after her; even that is what he would expect from her if he were ill.

 

To think otherwise is misogyny and jahiliyyah pure and simple. There is no room for such pagan ideas in the teachings of Islam; Allah says, “Among His signs is that He created for you spouses from your kind for you to relate to them in peace and tranquility and He has implanted in your hearts love and affection towards one another. Verily, in these are signs for those who think.”  (Qur’an Ar-Rum 30:21)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.