If your wife is observant of prayers and basic rules of modesty, then you should not be overly critical of her. Instead of acting as her judge on her piety, you may do well to be persuasive and let your gentleness move her towards greater religiosity.

 

After all, you should know that Allah is the judge; and He alone can judge what is in our hearts; His judgment is based more on our intentions and what we cherish in our hearts rather than on our outward observances and rituals alone.

 

You may do well to heed the wisdom of Allah sending His chosen Messenger Musa and ordering him to speak to Pharaoh, the tyrant, gently. If this is the way to approach a tyrant, then your wife deserves better treatment from you. After all, she is a believer, albeit a little slack in some of her observances.

 

Finally, never stop praying to Allah in the manner He wants us to:

 

Rabbanaa hab lanaa min azwaajinaa wa dhurriyyaathinaa qurratha a’yunin waj’alnaa lil al-muttaqeena imaaman

 

(Our Lord, grant us joy in our spouses and children and make us role models for those who are mindful). (Al-Furqan 25:74)

 

Allah Almighty knows best.