I can only empathize with your situation and pray for you. Other than that, the best advice I can give you is to speak to an imam or wise leader in the community to counsel both of you; he may be able to guide you to sort out your differences and thus save your marriage.

 

The other option might be if your son who is 19 can find another place to stay (a family member or friends you can trust) under your watchful eyes. He is already an adult person, and so he should be able to care for himself with some outside help. That would be a better option than putting the future of younger children also in danger.

 

Having said this, I would also advise you to continue to pray to Allah unceasingly to open doors for you and help you find an amicable solution and thus find peace and comfort.

 

I pray to Allah to bless you in your efforts to seek a peaceful way of reconciliation without losing your children.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.