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Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Overindulgence of thinking about this girl is Ishq, which may lead you to further commit unlawful things. According to Ibn Al-Qayyim, ‘al-Ishq is an excessive love,  where by one fears for the person who is excessive in his love.’ (Madārij 3:30).

 

Shaykh ul-Islaam Ibn Taymeeyah (d.728 A.H.) -Rahimullaah-said: ‘Having Ishq for a woman [whom a person is not connected to] has so much corruption which no one can enumerate except the Lord of the worshippers.  It is from the illnesses which corrupt the Deen of the one who has this illness.  Then it can corrupt his intellect, and after that his body.’ (Fatawa 10:132).

 

Ishq obligates servitude of the heart to other than Allah, since the heart of the one who has Ishq worships the one whom he has Ishq for, rather ishq is the core of servitude, since it is complete humility and love and submission and regarding as great.

 

The treatment of Ishq has been deeply tackled by Ibn Al-Qayyim and Ibn Taymiyah. Ibn Qayyim aj-Jawzeeyah (d.751 A.H.) -Rahimullaah-said: ‘If Ishq occurs but not in a prohibited way, then a person is not blamed for it.  Like the one who has Ishq for his wife or his slave girl but then separates from her but Ishq for her remains and it does not separate from him, then this person is not blamed for it.

 

Likewise if the man took an unexpected glance but he turned away from looking, however, Ishq indeed had caught a hold of his heart involuntarily except that it is upon him to repel it and turn it away.’

 

Ibn Taymeeyah (d.728 A.H.) -Rahimullaah-said: ‘If he is tested with Ishq and desisted, and was patient then he is rewarded for his having Taqwa of Allah.  Since it is known with Sharia evidence that if a person desisted from prohibitions, looking at them, statements and actions, and he kept them secret and did not speak about them, so much so that there is no prohibited speech which is, either complaining to the creation, or doing an evil deed or fulfilling a request for the beloved one, and being patient upon obedience to Allah and keeping away from sinning against Allah.  Also being patient upon what is in his heart from the pain of Ishq just like an afflicted person is patient upon the pain of the affliction.  This is done by he who feared Allaah and had patience.

 

“Verily, he who fears Allah with obedience to Him (by abstaining from sins and evil deeds, and by performing righteous good deeds), and is patient, then surely, Allah makes not the reward of the Muhsinoon (good-doers) to be lost.” (Al-Anfal 12:90)

 

The way to recover from Ishq is to try to get married to this girl if you find her a suitable match for you with regard to her religion and moral behavior. If it is not possible you must be real and make sure that there is no way of returning back to her. You must also attempt to turn all your love to Allah alone. This can be attained by a number of steps such as engaging in du’aa that Allah purifies your heart of this disease, praying at night and keeping yourself busy with other beneficial activities. My advice to you is to keep making prayer in masjid at the first row for at least for a month. Just make it regularly at masjid. There is a strong relation between negligence of prayer and over indulgence in lusts and desires. Allah says in the Quran, “But there came after them successors who neglected prayer and pursued desires; so they are going to meet evil -” (Maryam 19:59)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Thursday, Jan. 01, 1970 | 00:00 - 00:00 GMT

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