Marital relationship should ideally be based on love, respect and cordiality. Allah SWT says in the Quran what means “And of His [wondrous] signs is that He has created for you, from yourselves, mates, so that you may repose in them. And He has set between you genuine [mutual] love and [tenderhearted] mercy. Indeed, in [all of] this there are sure signs for a people who would reflect [on the handiwork of God].” (Ar-Rum 30:21)

Hence, both spouse should be keen to establish such meanings in their relationship and work hard to avoid causes of dissension and conflict. Families on both sides need also to be wise enough not to be causes of such disputes, for they should rather be reasons for solving them.

 

To judge whether divorce pronounced in a state of anger is valid or not, we need to know that there are three degrees of anger:

 

First, normal anger where one is fully aware of his words and deeds and in full control over them. Divorce, in this case, is valid and in effect.

Second, extreme anger where one so loses control over his words and deeds that he cannot remember what he said or did when was in such a state of anger. Divorce in this is not valid and has no effect, because one has turned nearly insane.

 

Third, anger that is over normal degree but has not reached the extreme one. There are scholarly disagreement over the validity of divorce in this case.

 

According to the scenario you narrated, it seems that your anger at that time belongs to the second degree. But still, issues of marital disputes and divorce require the mufti to make further investigations. So, it would be much better if you can consult a local scholar or Shari`ah committee in your country for more accurate response to your case.

 

Allah, the Exalted, knows best.