Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-giving.

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

 

If your marriage has been done in the proper Islamic way fulfilling all required conditions, then it is a valid marriage and your relation is a legitimate one.

 

Consequently, the child your wife has conceived is your legitimate child as long as the sperm is yours, though through an artificial conception.

 

Marriage is the “normal life” as you described it while homosexuality is abnormal.

The real critical problem in your life that you have not asked about, as if it were not a problem at all, is your homosexuality. It is a grave sin that incurs Allah’s wrath. It was the practice of the people of Sodom for which they deserved heavenly punishment.

Allah says what means “So when Our command [of doom] came to pass [against Sodom], We made [their land’s] uppermost its lowermost. Then We rained down upon it stones of hardened clay, clustered-marked by your Lord!” (Hud 11:82-82)

 

The damages and diseases caused by homosexuality include: AIDS, viral hepatitis, syphilis, gonorrhea, herpes disease, anal bacterial infections, typhoid disease, intestinal worms, scabies, pubic lice disease, anal cancer virus, granulomatous disease of the reproductive lymphatic. I do not think that anyone of a sound mind would like to have any of these diseases.

 

Lesbianism is another grave sin. Both homosexuality and Lesbianism are abnormal sexual practices and usually require therapy.

 

So, you and your wife may need to consult trustworthy psychologists to help you overcome this problem.

 

Think about your child who will grow up in this eccentric family. You can save the whole family if you decide to make a change.

 

Brother, you and your wife need to make a big change in your life through true repentance. You have to turn humbly to Allah and pray to Him earnestly to help you overcome this practice.

 

Show to Him your sincerity and humility and He will surely be at your side and will guide you to His right path.

 

You need to familiarize yourself more of Islamic teachings and the proper Muslim family. Going to Hajj and `Umrah is also a great opportunity for repentance and change.

 
Almighty Allah knows best.