Thank you very much for joining us in this Fatwa session. We would also like to thank our guest, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, for answering the questions directed to him. You will find the answers to your questions below.
I am very tenced about one thing. Recently I bought a course about affiliate marketing. In that course they suggest students to copy and made same type of contents of viral content makers and post them in Instagram with affliliate link. For these they also use music as background audio. It is not even mendatory to do as a affiliate marketer and as a muslim I will not gonna use music for making such contents. At this point is it halal for me to promote this course as a product and get commission from it. Because I am afraid that I may not follow the trend of using background music but If I promote maybe an unknown person may use music, as the teacher of that course is suggesting to use music.So far I found everything fine about course but, just confused about this issue.
ZaZa-Kallah Khair Sheikh 💕
You need to ask what kind of course it is. Is it something that imparts beneficial knowledge?
If the answer is yes, then you can take part in promoting it. Imparting beneficial knowledge is excellent charity work that merits rewards.
The music cannot be ruled as wholly haram; it depends on the content and message. If the message is clean and ethical, you should not hesitate to use it. For details about music, please refer to the answer posted below:
I am married and planning to perform Umrah on Dec 11th, 2023, iA.
Due to my Period being anticipated for Dec 08th (my periods last for 7-8 days), I started taking birth control pills on November 17th (after checking with my doctor). 2 weeks into the pill, I starting spotting (I think breakthrough bleeding) on November 30th, which is continuing until now, December 6th.
My Question is what should I do with regards to my prayers, intercourse, and upcoming Umrah? I first thought the pill caused the period to come earlier than usual (my period is light now due to aging). But now I realized it is most likely breakthrough bleeding as I am reading on this topic.
Can I perform my religious duties (prayers, intercourse with husband, Umrah) during this time? I am afraid of breakthrough bleeding overlapping with period bleeding (or vice versa) due to my upcoming period date. What can I do about my Umrah, and prayers?
Please reply as soon as possible.
You need not be concerned about the spotting before or after the period; it is not considered menstrual bleeding. Therefore, you can perform Umrah or, Hajj or Tawaf even if you experience spotting as long as you are not menstruating.
For further details, let me cite here one of my earlier answers:
“You are free of menses only when your bleeding has completely stopped, and you see the white discharge following your regular pattern. However, after you have seen the white discharge, if you experience pinkish or brownish discharges, you need not worry. Umm Atiyyah, the Prophet’s companion, said, ” During the Prophet’s time, we never used to pay attention to the pinkish or brownish discharges that followed the expiry of menses.”
(Reported by Imam Bukhari and others)
All the above, however, is conditional on the fact that your menses period was at most fifteen days. Bleeding after fifteen days cannot be reckoned as menses; rather, it is reckoned as istihadhah (abnormal bleeding). In the case of Istihadhah, you need to pray after taking a full bath at the end of your period; then, you wash your private and make wudhu before each prayer. Washing and wudhu should only be done immediately before each salah.”
1) are we allowed to make personal duas in our own language in sujood? i read there is hadith which says ask Allah SWT whatever you want in sujood. but i saw some shaykh, mufti say its only supposed to be duas from the Quran or Hadtih in sujood 2) is personal duas supposed to be made before tasleem or after? 3) are we allowed to make dua asking Allah SWT for death or harm of non Muslims? for example Israelis who are oppressing Palestinians or specific individuals who i have hatred or grudge against?
There is no scholarly consensus on the issue of offering supplications in languages other than Arabic. Some consider it forbidden, others undesirable, and others think it permissible for those who do not know Arabic.
All agree, however, that one should read the prescribed duas as much as possible.
Imam Ibn Taymiyya has discussed this issue and concluded that it is perfectly fine for a person who does not know Arabic to offer supplications after using the prescribed Adhkar.
He has referred to the following hadith in support of this position.
Imam Muslim reported on the authority of Abdullah ibn Mas’ud: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “When you sit for Tashahhud, you should say, All greetings to Allah and all humble entreats and goodness. Peace be upon you, O Prophet, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings. Peace be upon us and all the righteous servants of Allah. I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and His Messenger; then let him choose any petition or supplication they prefer.”
The Prophet did not place any restriction or qualification. The Quran teaches us that Allah knows our innermost thoughts before we even express them.
Furthermore, we are encouraged to pour our hearts before Allah and ask Allah for anything as long as we avoid what is blameworthy, irreverent, or unpleasant.
As for curse prayer, the general rule is that we ought to avoid them.
However, an exception is made regarding praying against the oppressors. Islam teaches us that Allah answers the prayers of the oppressed against their oppressors. If that is the case, it means we are allowed to pray against the Zionist oppressors who have been guilty of unimaginable atrocities against the innocent people of Gaza and Palestine. They have been practicing genocide against the Palestinians for decades, so it is only reasonable for us to pray to Allah to defeat the oppressors and grant the Palestinians victory in their struggle for freedom and dignity.
Therefore, I would urge all Muslims to pray for our oppressed brothers; sujud is the best place to do so.
Here is a dua you may read in sujud and other occasions
Allaahumma azzibi as-sahaayinatha al-mu’tadeen al-mujrimeen.
Allaahumma inaa najaluka fee nuhoorihim wa na’oodhu bika min shuroorihim; Allaahumma shattit shamlahum wafarriq jam’ahum khudhhum akhdha azeezin muqthadir
(O Allah, punish the Zionist oppressors, the criminals. O Allah, we place You in their breasts and seek Your protection from their evil machinations; O Allah, sow disunity and discord among them and seize them with Your invincible might and power)
The parents of the girl got divorced when she was four years old. Since then the mother of the girl took care of her financially and physically. The father and the daughter (girl) got reconnected again when she was 22 years old. however, at this stage the father still did not provide any financial or physical support apart from 2 or 3 favours. Now, the girl is 28 years old and wants to get married. The boy she wants to marry travelled from Asia to Europe to ask for the hand from both of the parents and their family (he visited each parent separately). Both mother and father gave the permission to marry off their daughter to this man. However, now the father is suddenly creating an issue around the nikkah with conflicting ideas about the procedure.
In the initial stage both the girl and the boy agreed that they wanted to do the Nikah after the civil marriage. However, the place where civil marriage is going to take place is in Europe and both the girl and the boy reside in Asia so this will require them to travel. Therefore both the girl and the boy decided that nikkah just before travelling will be better to have an easy way to travel together. Even if the nikkah happens exactly on the day of travelling they don’t mind.
This means that this nikkah will be an online nikkah to make sure all parties are present. The wali, the two witnesses, the boy, the girl and the imam. The imam is chosen by the boy and speaks Arabic, English and Urdu. These languages are important as the boy wants to invite his family to the call so that they can witness the nikkah. His parents are not living in the same country as him and cannot travel even though they both are in an Asian country. The Arabic is important for the girl’s side of the family.
The father is not agreeing to this change because he wants to choose the imam by himself, because he wants to know the “man”. However, in the initial stage of the marriage process he asked his daughter to choose an imam in the place where civil marriage will take place. So this imam, he would also technically not know.
The boy asked the dad if he wanted to meet the imam chosen beforehand, but the dad did not agree with that.
Later on, the dad also does not agree to do the nikkah before the civil marriage. The mother has no issue with this.
The dad has been conflicting in his words for the whole time. Moving from in the initial days we don’t need an imam and we can do it online to I need to choose the imam and the nikkah cannot be online.
The boy and the girl have reached a point where they are willing to move the nikkah to after civil marriage but are concerned that looking at the unstable communication of the father that he suddenly pulls out off the nikkah itself by not attending.
Please note that he does not have a problem with the boy marrying his daughter and he still accepts the marriage proposal from the boy for his daughter. The issue created is around the procedure and date.
Based on this context, I would like to ask the following question:
Does the father still hold the guardianship even after not supporting his daughter financially and physically and being absent for so many years?
If he is not her guardian anymore, is it possible for the two to do the nikkah without the wali being the father and ask an imam to do the nikkah according the rules of Islam, as the father is creating unnecessary hurdles in the process even after giving the permission?
His words were “I don’t refuse that you marry my daughter, what I refuse that the person who will do the nikah I don’t know”. Does he have the right for this kind of objection?
Please note, the girl has no brothers, only half-brothers from the same dad that are younger than 17 years and with regards to the two paternal uncles, one said he doesn’t want to do it since the father is still alive and the other is still not sure.
Suppose your father shirked his responsibility towards you as you grew up. In that case, he has no right to claim his right to be so stubborn in arrogating the responsibility of choosing the imam to conduct the marriage after he has already consented.
It would be best for your father to learn the lesson that the pious Caliph Umar taught a father who neglected his parental responsibility and came to him complaining about his son. Umar asked the son to respond to his father’s complaint against him, to which the son replied, “My father has never fulfilled any of his responsibilities towards me; my mother is a Zoroastrian, he named me Beatle, and never taught me anything of the Qur’an!” Umar told the father that he had no right to complain about his son as he had neglected his duties towards him in the first place.
So, your father is being unfair in arrogating to himself the right to choose the imam to conduct the marriage; it is the choice of your husband and yourself.
If he refuses to participate in the marriage, you may ask your uncle; if he refuses, you may ask the imam or any wise person in the community to act as your wakil to offer your hand in marriage.
I’m from Morocco but currently I live in China, so my question about if the beef and chicken I eat are halal or haram? I go to restaurants with my friends, and I can’t always keep asking if the animals were slaughtered or killed in another way, and I ate many times in many restaurants without asking if they were slaughtered or not.
As a Muslim, you are allowed only to eat halal meat slaughtered by Muslims or the people of the book (including Christians and Jews). You can eat the meat served by the Chinese who belong to the above categories of people but not of those who are outside. You may eat fish or vegetables free of haram ingredients, such as wine pork byproducts.
Islam does not require changing your surname after marriage; the Islamic practice has been for married women to keep their family name. The custom of a woman taking on her husband’s surname is a practice followed in Western countries. If you follow this practice for legal or practical reasons while living in this culture, you may do so since no one confuses it as akin to changing your filial lineage.
For details, you may access the answer linked below:
If right after doing Ghusl and praying we have sex now, should the woman still wash herself thoroughly again, also rewashing her hair? Let’s see if one does sex three times a day then one needs to ghusul 3 times too to be able to complete all prayers?
Ghusl is an essential requirement after sexual intercourse for prayer, reading the Qur’an, and performing the ritual of Tawaf.
There is no need to perform a ghusl if you repeat the intercourse as long as the time for the prayer has not arrived yet.
We ought to pray on time, and no prayer is valid without ritual impurity; sexual intercourse renders one ritually impure, and only a Ghusl can lift the ritual impurity. If you are sick and prevented from using water, you may resort to tayammum or symbolic ablution; otherwise, one should perform ghusl with water.
A marriage proposal is going on. the girl’s father’s name contains the word ‘Rahman’ without abdul (ex: Shafiqur Rahman). If they don’t want to or refuse to change it should I refuse the proposal even if she is righteous? because father’s name is obligatory to write in the marriage registry in our country. Will the sin of shirk be upon me If this name is on my marriage registry? If kazi says, are you agree to take Shafiqur Rahman’s daughter as your wife and If I say yes will I be committing shirk?
It is okay to name someone with compound names such as Shafiq al-Rahman, Habib al-Rahman, Fazlur Rahman, etc.; it is a perfectly acceptable practice followed by Muslims worldwide. We are allowed to use shared names or names indicating our subservience to Allah; we are not allowed to call anyone by names exclusively reserved for Allah; while we are allowed to call someone Shafiq al-Rahman, we are not allowed to call him al-Rahman or al-Aziz or al-Qadir, which refer only to Allah.
So, don’t worry about the expression, ‘Do you agree to take Shafiq al-Rahman’s daughter’; it is perfectly fine.
I pray to Allah to bless their marriage and make it a source of blessings for the families on both sides.
My question is regarding CBD flower (or otherwise known as industrial hemp)
CBD flower is a type of cannabis sativa plant which is selectively bred to contain high amounts of CBD and very low levels of THC (legally below 0.3% and 0.2% in some countries).
This plant can be used in various ways such as being made into CBD oil, smoked, mixed into food and made into tea. It is suggested that CBD can provide many health benefits such as helping with anxiety/depression, pain relief as well as anti-inflammatory properties amongst other things.
As it contains extremely low levels of THC, it is said to be non-intoxicating and when trying to purchase CBD/Hemp flower it is always stated in the description that it doesn’t intoxicate and will not cause you to get high.
Some people have reported feeling relaxed, concentrated, and sometimes feeling a “buzz” in their body after consuming CBD flower but have related it to a buzz you would feel after having caffeine or the like, or after exercising, without any of the intoxicating mental effects of regular marijuana.
My question is, is it permissible to consume CBD flower?
Also, I understand that smoking is haram, however if one was to smoke CBD flower, would they come under the same ruling as someone who has consumed intoxicants?
It would be best if you did not consume CBD flower unless it has been prescribed for you by a medical professional for treating a condition for which there is no alternative. As stated by a medical professional, “We don’t have enough information to make any definitive claims about the safety of CBD hemp flower. Relevant federal authorities have yet to weigh in regarding the relative safety or danger of smoking hemp.”
The Prophet (peace be upon him) ordered us to shun the doubtful; otherwise, we may fall into the Haram. Such drugs may be addictive; we may benefit ourselves by refraining from them altogether unless we have no choice because of a medical necessity.
I pray to Allah to keep us safe from all harmful substances and influences.
Is it mandatory to sit after the second sujuud of the first rakat before standing up?
Sitting after the second sujud of any rak’as is not obligatory, including the first one. Moreover, most scholars consider doing so undesirable. That is the view of the Maliki and Hanafi schools. It is the view of the Prophet’s companions, including Umar, Ali, Ibn Mas’ud, Ibn Umar, and Ibn Abbas. Imam at-Tirmithi is the authoritative view of the scholars.
Having said this, Shafi school and Hanabli school (according to a report from Ahmad) consider it a recommended practice. They refer to the following tradition attributed to Malik b. al-Huwayrith that the Prophet (peace be upon him) used to sit down before rising from sujud in the first rak`ah.” (Reported by Al-Bukhari)
However, the first group of scholars considers this report to be confusing due to his memory challenges due to extreme old age. The fact that the eminent companions mentioned above strengthens this view since it is not plausible to imagine that they would overlook this vital practice of the Prophet (peace be upon him).
In conclusion, sitting after the second sajdah before rising is only necessary if one has a valid reason.
I touched a dry, impure object with sweaty hands. Are my hands impure?
im having fighting with waswasa
If you have touched an impure object with sweaty hands, clean it with water or wet wipes.
If you are not sure, then you should dismiss such whispering doubts by saying aoodhu billahi mina as-shaytaani ar-rajeem
(I seek refuge in Allah from Satan, the accursed) and ignore such thoughts. By continuing to succumb to such whisperings, you are allowing Satan to play with your mind to make you give up the practice of religion.
Can I exchange the makeup products that I have rarely used for 3-4 times and one is expired but used only once with the new ones on a website (from which I have not purchased) but I tell them a reason.
You can return the item only if the contract allows you to do that. In other words, would they take back a product that you have used? If they accept it after you have disclosed the use, it is fine; otherwise, you are cheating. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Whoever cheats is not one of us.” (Reported by Muslim)
Is it allowed to become a police officer in North America? One concern that I have is that police officers have to ask for proof of insurance when pulling someone over, and I know that there is a difference of opinion on insurance and the majority say it is haram
There is nothing objectionable about it as long as you do not act against the teachings of Islam while doing your call of duty.
It is essential for Muslims living in North America (whether in the USA or Canada) to realize how blessed we are to enjoy freedom and rights, while most of them have been denied to us in almost all Muslim countries. So, we ought to appreciate our blessings while using them as an opportunity to serve the country and the people we are part of.
It is worth noting that as a policeman, you are not making laws; your primary mission is to serve and protect. Therefore, you need not have any reservations about being a policeman. But make sure your commitment to your duties as a policeman and your integrity, character, trustworthiness, and God-consciousness shine through your words and actions.
As for the issue of asking for insurance papers when stopping a driver, that should not be a source of concern. We are not allowed to drive cars without proper insurance; otherwise, we are breaking the laws of the land, besides endangering the lives and properties of others as well as ours. As Muslims, we ought to abide by the laws of the land, which are intended for our safety and protection.
I pray to Allah to bless you in your chosen career.
My sister is 23 years old. For at least the last 10 years, I have witnessed her being ungrateful, rude, and disrespectful to my parents. She has cursed out my mother, calling her the B word, and threatening to hit her. She demands my father to give her money to spend on lavish clothes and extra food than what is necessary. He has also paid for her Bachelor’s degree and is now funding her Master’s Education. She has never shown an ounce of respect towards them and it hurts them. I don’t like to see my mother hurt and sad because of this. My sister can’t be reasoned with, she has been put in therapy, hospital, counseling, medicine. The doctors say she may not be sane, but someone who has completed this level of education and is nice to others outside of family surely must be sane. I do not want to see my parents be disrespected or hurt anymore. They think that to be good Muslims, they must provide for her. Is that true? All I see is their kindness being taken advantage of. It isn’t right for them to keep this person in their house who doesn’t treat them like their parents. She isn’t kind to me either, but our whole family just keeps a smile or ignore her antics. What do we do? How do we treat an entitled person when all we are is kind to her and she is just always disrespectful and rude in return? Do my parents have to provide for her Islamically? Is it a sin if they don’t?
I understand daughters must be provided for in Islam, but also children must be the best to their parents in return.
Since your sister is a mature adult, she should not be allowed to continue to live at the mercy of her parents, whom she is mistreating or abusing. By continuing to support her despite her unacceptable behavior, you are spoiling her and telling her that you are willing to put up with her abusive behavior.
So, it may be good to take a break and let her learn to take care of herself. While saying this, I assume that she is not suffering from any significant medical challenge that makes her act in this way.
If so, you must ensure she gets the proper treatment. You may do well to speak with your family doctor, who should be able to recommend a qualified professional.
You may also find it helpful to speak to a counselor, who may advise you on how to deal with her.
Is it permissible to believe in the twin flame and soul mates theory?How do we know that the person we are going to marry is our potential spouse?How can I avoid getting divorced later on if he is not my potential spouse?
These are terms used by therapists to indicate different types of relationships. We cannot take their theories at face value as they are liable to errors and may be subject to modification as they know more about human nature and relationships.
So, as a Muslim, we cannot get carried away by such theories.
Let me explain these terms as explained by a licensed psychotherapist, Babita Spinelli:
“Twin flames are often believed to be two halves of one soul or “mirrors of each other,” Spinelli says. This includes both strengths and weaknesses. “Twin flames are generally described as two individuals who very intensely connect, usually as romantic partner, because of a shared pain,” she adds.
“A soul mate is about a love connection but also about a connection with someone who accepts you and knows you; soul mates are often described as a strong connection between two people that can be romantic partners or friends.”
There are many types of soul mates, from romantic soul mates to soul families to kindred spirits.”
Perhaps there is no better way of explaining the Islamic perspective on this issue than by quoting the Prophet (peace be upon him), who said, “Souls are like armies united in ranks; those who knew each other (in primordial existence) will be united together; and those that who did not know would be separated.” (Reported by Muslim)
The soul connection is not limited to marriage partnership; it can be applied to all areas of life. According to Aisha, the Prophet made the above statement when he heard of a woman in Makkah making people laugh; later, she migrated to Madinah and became united with a woman who was also in the habit of making people laugh.
Now, coming to the issue of marriage, there is no denying that marriage is a relationship that helps each one grow; so the concept of a mirror applies to marriage as each spouse should act as a mirror to each other, helping each other to improve morally and spiritually. The spouses are intended to complement and thus complete each other; Islam envisages the role of man and woman not as rivals but as two sides of the same coin. In other words, they form a single unity.
I urge you to study the Prophetic morals to build a marriage union that should be a genuine source of joy and comfort. Our spiritual masters say a blessed union between the spouses is a foretaste of paradise.
You may find practical tips for forming a blissful marriage union by studying the book:
Blissful Marriage: A Practical Islamic Guide by Ekram.
I’m doing real estate in Dubai and my one deal is in process at the moment. I’m a broker here so the buyer is using mortgage. My job was to show him the property he likes it and then the bank valuation team contacted me and I arranged a viewing of the apartment for them so they visited the apartment and valuated it to provide loan to the buyer so I just wanted to ask that I’m a middleman here connected with buyer/seller and I’m going to get the commission from the buyer as per Dubai real estate rule so the commission I’m getting for this will be halal for me or not as the buyer has taken a loan from the bank
You can work as a real estate agent even if those who decide to buy the houses resort to bank loans. Firstly, you are not responsible for their actions; secondly, mortgages cannot be prohibited as it is next to impossible for most people to buy houses with ready cash. That is why eminent scholars have declared that it is permissible under the rule of necessity. Owning a home is a necessity. Furthermore, by announcing bank loans as wholly haram, we are closing the doors to the world of business and reducing them to the status of consumers, who are always at the mercy of others. Therefore, we cannot be so rigid on this issue. Islam is indeed opposed to exploitative interest practices that end up widening the gap between the rich and the poor.
I juice fruits and vegetables using a juicer machine. I throw the pulp which are the remains of the fruits and vegetables in the bin. Am I being wasteful?
Please consider using the pulp as much as possible. That way, you should be able to satisfy your Islamic conscience. There are plenty of creative ways of using the pulp. Here is an excellent article that recommends a few methods:
I used to do small levels of dawah in my university.
I used to give dawah to men and women
As there was a muslimah she was involved in some parts of shirk, i provided dawah with adillah from quran and sunnah.
Now Alhamdulilah she has refrained from doing such acts of shirk.
And now after clarification of some of her doubts, she confessed that she would like to marry me and study deen
For me, I am not opposed to the idea of marriage as she is alhadulillah more righteous than before and started practising islam according to quran and sunnah,
My question is am I allowed for such marriage?
And a follow up question would be what are the rights of parents over my marriage if they believe that her family may be of shirk doers.?
You are allowed to marry her; it does not matter that she used to practice some forms of shirk in the past. We cannot look to the past; Islam teaches us that someone who has repented of a sin is like someone who never sinned. He also said, ‘Once a person embraces Islam, all their past sins are forgiven.” (Reported by Ahmad)
Never mind that you came to know her through da’wah as long as you acted within the acceptable boundaries.
So, you can marry her if you choose.
I want to make dua for my sister b/c i felt that someone will hurt her and how to make dua to her and also how to make dua against that person to not make that thing also sheikh make dua to her jezakellah kheyr
Sorry for my english i hope you understand my question
She should turn to Allah for protection. I recommend that she reads Surah Fathiha, Aayatul Kursi (the Throne verse), and the last three surahs of the Qur’an before retiring to bed.
She can also read the following Dua’s:
Allaahumma inee a’odhu bika min jaari as-sooi
Allaahumma ihfathnee kamaa thahfath ibaadaka as-saliheen
(O Allah, I seek your protection from evil neighbors)
(O Allah, guard and protect me as You protect Your righteous servants).
You can also pray for her; here is a dua you can use:
Allaahumma innee a’oodhu bi izzathika laa ilaaha illaa antha an laa thuzilla ukthee wa ihfathhaa bi hifzika anta al-hayyu lladhee laa yamoothu wa al-jinn wa al-insu yamoothoon
(O Allah, I ask of You by invoking Your great Might, while testifying there is no god but You, not to let my sister go astray, and I beg You to surround her with Your protection; You are the Ever-Living, while all the species of jinn and humanity are bound to die).
I am 14 years old .Now that I’m starting to make up fasts i broke my fast one day intentionally and for that you would need to make up 60 days . Well I recently started fasting and I had just come to my destination after travelling by car and it was my house in that country that we hadn’t visited in a while . I insisted to my mother that I should fast but she kept saying no because we didn’t really have enough for everyone for sahur food or water I mean we did have my grandmas house which is like 5 minutes away but it would be dark( we arrived around evening and and I wanted to fast the next day ) . So I broke my fast that day and I don’t know if I should make up 1 or 60 days .
If you did break your obligatory fast intentionally, you have committed a grave sin, so you ought to seek repentance and hasten to make up the fasts as soon as possible. If you are unable to fast because of health challenges, you ought to expiate by feeding a poor person for each day of the fast you have broken or missed.
There is no need for you to fast sixty days for a fast you broke unless you broke through sexual intercourse.
I recently converted to Islam Alhamdulillah and I haven’t told my parents yet. When the times comes and I have found my naseeb I will have to tell them eventually. I know it is not permissable to marry without your guardians consent but my guardians aren’t muslim. I don’t think they will ever accept a muslim man into my life. Can a brother or sister help me out? What should I do?
If the culture you are part of does not require the guardian’s consent for marriage, then it is not an absolute requirement for the validity of your marriage if you are an adult.
In Christianity, consent of parents is not an absolute requirement for the validity of marriage. Having said this, you should inform your parents about your decision. If you think telling them at this time would make things worse, then you may inform them later, as Islam teaches us to honor our parents even if they are not Muslims.
As for the issue of a guardian, since marriage is ultimately your choice, you may ask the imam or a wise person you know from the community to act on your behalf.
I am a converted muslim. I converted in 2019 off paper got my shahada certificate in 2021 but my legal formalities are still on old religion. I was in a relationship with a Muslim boy or man I don’t know he proposed me for marriage in starting of the conversation. He said verbally we are a married couples now so act like one.he asked me to do many haram things I did. He use to say he is hafiz, kari Mufti these words are not related to me so I thought he is right Islam might work him way. I started learning but he use to say you just joined so don’t try to teach me soon I was emotionally dependent on him and after a span of 8months got to know he have multiple chat with many girls with same like mine but all of the girls were muslim by birth when I confronted he use to say he is just trying them and I was so silly believed him words by word and this thing got so frequent he started blackmailing and started disrespecting me my parents and my old religion. I was so disturbed i thought may be allah doesn’t accept converts I am not good enough for Islam I use to be a namazi there was something that could not let me go believing Allah and his miracles. 2 years passed and now he left me saying every bad thing that happened to him is because of me and never accepted his fault. I am already 32 crossing my marrigable complety broke mentally I keep asking is convertion my only fault it’s been month I lost my appetite and sleep. I got a job work from home as he wanted. I get panic attacks now I cry my heart out each day we are not in contact he said he has no relationship with me now I get suicidal feeling I m lost. I came to Islam assuming people are like me I can don’t cheat on people but be it a boy or girl people have just roobed me in this. I have no where to find my answers I pray tahajjud it use to give me peace earlier now I just cry. My daily routine is working drinking water namaz and crying my self to sleep that to for 1 or 2 hours then again I cry and sleep I started getting dreams that I am happily married to him signed nikah nama in kaba with him and cherising my life with him and his family. I am so screwed up I don’t know. I am afraid of people now. I had 3 friends earlier 2 of them are married and one is non married she say that since you reluctantly started getting into Islam you got in this. I don’t know what to do. Hove Allah not created my pair? IAm I not good enough to be a Muslim? Why do Qur’an say many things to follow and when I followed people just fooled me? Can Allah just let me die I am unable to beearr these. I sit for dua and ask for this man as halal spouse. I am just stuck i sorry I have many things to say but I don’t know what is necessary I have shared 20% of my story lastly why do people who have saudi dad treat people like me as animals. I use to even urinate with his permission i followed as he said because wife need to follow all husband say as per Qur’an. Then after they are left what are wife supposed to do he never said
I empathize with your situation and pray to Allah for relief and comfort.
I know your challenges are overwhelming; your only hope is in Allah, who alone controls the affairs in the universe. With your firm faith in Him and His power over all things, you can rest assured that Allah can bring relief. I urge you to pray to Allah while trusting in Him unceasingly. Eventually, you will be vindicated, and you will see the help of Allah. However, while waiting for the best outcome, we must always maintain patience, for Allah answers our prayers in His own time rather than as humans rush for it.
Sometimes, we need to see the wisdom in His will. The Quran teaches us that we must never lose hope in God’s help, as He has promised that the outcome is all good for those who are mindful of God.
That is the lesson Allah teaches us through the stories of His chosen people: Think of the stories of Prophets Ibrahim, Musa, Yusuf, Ayyub, and others. They all went through overwhelming challenges. They triumphed at the end. For instance, in the case of Prophet Yusuf, who was betrayed by his brothers and thrown into the desert well, he went through many tests; finally, after over thirty years, he triumphed. He became the master of Egypt and his brothers and parents.
So, even though your husband has abandoned you, you may find another person to marry you. Perhaps Allah has better plans for you, so continue praying and trust Allah’s help.
You may also speak to a counselor; often, counselors appear on this site. The editor can refer you to someone who can provide tips to cope with your challenges and maintain your emotional and spiritual health.
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