Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

You should not retaliate against your mother; instead, you should forgive her. By doing that you would be standing on a high moral ground. And you would undoubtedly please your Lord as well, and thus you merit greater rewards.

 

The Prophet (peace be upon him) taught us to forgive those who offend us and foster ties with those who sever relations with us. If this is a general rule to follow with others, then it should apply to our parents first.

 

Your mother perhaps didn’t know any better. Now that you are a mature adult you should not take it on her. You should forgive her and treat her as honorably as you can.

 

The Prophet (peace be upon him) was asked: “I had some blood relations, no matter how good I treat them they act rudely towards me and sever ties with me; should I still try to join relations with them?”, the Prophet (peace be upon him) replied, “Regardless of what they do to you, you should continue to foster ties of kinship!” Allah will reward you, and they will be accountable for their misdeeds.

 

So, regardless of how your mother had treated you in the past, you owe it to her to serve her as best as you can.
Almighty Allah knows best.