Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

He is playing with the sacred law of Allah by using divorce to intimidate you. If he wants to divorce you, he needs to do it properly through the legal channel.

 

As for whether such threats constitute divorce, I am inclined to choose the ruling of Imam Ibn Taymiyyah, they do not constitute a valid divorce.  If he is merely uttering such words, he needs to repent and learn to control his anger.

 

If, however, he is swearing or making oaths to that effect, then he ought to expiate for such oaths by feeding ten poor persons or clothing them. If he cannot do so, then he needs to fast three days: Allah says in the Qur’an: “Allah will not take you to task for oaths which you may have uttered without thought, but He will take you to task for oaths which you have sworn in earnest. Thus, the breaking of an oath must be atoned for by feeding ten needy persons with more or less the same food as you are wont to give to your own families, or by clothing them, or by freeing a human being from bondage; and he who has not the wherewithal shall fast for three days [instead]. This shall be the atonement for your oaths whenever you have sworn [and broken them]. But be mindful of your oaths!’ Thus Allah makes clear unto you His messages so that you might have cause to be grateful this is the way to expiate for his solemn oaths.” (Al-Ma’idah 5: 89)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.