marriage and adoption issue

Q:

asalam alaikum my question is that I love my cousin from childhood. and it was my dream to marry him when i grow up as  my love for him increased and when i ask my parents for marriage they gave me reason that you could not marry him because we have adopted you from his parents. i cant stay without him now. Allah has given every solution to every problem. i can do anything to get him. is there any way that this could be possible i can give any qurbani please help  me.?

A:

Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

If your guardians oppose this marriage, you may do well to end romanticizing your love for this boy. They would know better. They may be opposed to it because, in their best judgment, he is not compatible with you.

Often, we may idolize someone and later realize how mistaken we were.

So, my advice to you is to seek counseling; you may speak to your family physician, who may refer you to a specialist who should help you overcome this infatuation.

You should do this while praying unceasingly to Allah to guide your heart to guide you to choose what is right for you in this world and the next and turn you away from that which is not suitable for you.

You should perform Salatul Istikharah.

For details, you may refer to the answer linked below:

Istikharah Prayer: Rules and Signs of Response

Almighty Allah knows best.

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