as salamu alaykum dear brother,

 

Shokran for writing to our live session. As I understand, your son-in-law has allegedly told some lies and swore on the Qur’an that he did not do it.  The discovery of his alleged acts was exposed on social media and once this happened, he denied he did it.

 

Swearing n the Qur’an

As you know, “swearing” by Allah or on the Qur’an about a truth is a very serious issue.  While I am not an Islamic scholar I do know there are consequences for not only lying-but lying on the word of Allah. I kindly suggest for a more in-depth Islamic response to this issue that you seek the advise of our scholars in the section “Ask the Scholars”.

 

Social Media-the Power of Connecting

Social media is often a horrendous platform for scandals.  While it can be good for keeping in touch with families, catching up on community events or reading fro Islamic forums, it is often a tool used to cause division and drama.  Brother, while the relationship is not good for your daughter and her husband I would kindly suggest that you request further proofs from whoever exposed the acts on social media.  I would, of course, suggest doing this in private due to the sensitive nature of this issue.  While the allegations on social media may be correct, if they are not correct you need to know the truth.  Taking a social media post for truth can be dangerous if not backed by witnesses or other evidence.  While I am not sure what was exposed or in what context, I cannot state whether or not it is a reliable source.  For instance-if someone makes a video of themselves drinking alcohol at a party, laughing and talking-yes that is a solid proof.  If some posts a statement saying “Ahmed (last name) is my boyfriend and he is leaving his wife” is not a solid proof but is a third person account.  As only you know brother what was posted, only you can make the determination as to whether or not this social media post needs further validation.

 

Lying

If your son-in-law is truly lying brother, he needs help.  For someone to lie on Allah’s name is a serious matter and usually, no Muslim would dare do that.  Therefore I can kindly suggest that the 2-has severe mental health issues which prevent him from thinking rationally or 2-he is thinking rationally but has lost his fear of Allah as well as his practice of Islam.  I would kindly suggest brother that you talk with him alone.  Try to get to the bottom of whatever it is that is going on.  At that point, you will be able to make a reliable decision as to whether you feel your daughter needs to divorce him or if he truly needs help.

 

Truth-Seeking

I would kindly suggest insha’Allah, that either way it goes, you encourage your daughter to pray to Allah about these matters before making a final decision.  Often times there can be marital problems and outsiders who are aware can inflate the issues.  On the other hand, spouses trying to conceal haram deeds who are exposed on social media may go to great lengths to deny their guilt.  Please do try to gather further evidence if needed; talk to your son-in-law if you are able; encourage your daughter to pray to Allah for guidance and for the truth to be revealed.  If it is the case that they do try to work it out,  marriage counseling should be initiated.  If she does decide to divorce him based on his lying, his swearing by Allah and the Qur’an then she is within her rights.  We wish you the best brother, you are in our payers.