Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatulahi wa barakatuh sister,

 

Masha Allah, you have found a  good man to marry, that your parents like and you have known him for all this time as a pious and trustworthy man. This sounds like an ideal situation for a marriage, but unfortunately, your mother now has her concerns after some pastoral counselling that she recently sought that suggested this marriage will not be a good one and that you should leave. Understandably, as your mother, she is concerned. She wants what’s best for you and does not want you to end up in a bad marriage. The counsellor she saw has led her to believe that this will be the case. Therefore, for your sake, despite the fact she likes him, she doesn’t want things to end badly and is advising you to leave.

 

Firstly, when you use the word ‘prophecy’ if you are referring to fortune telling, then Islamically this is haram. Such people may well hear stories that may be true or may not, but they can be influenced by the Jinn and as we know the Jinn will always be seeking to bring discord into marriages and relationships, so of course they will advise against anything that could result in a happy marriage. If this is the case, then please do disregard the information from the counsellor and do not act on it. However, the best thing you can do is to pray to Allah. Specifically,  pray istikhara that Allah will guide you do what’s best for this situation. If the marriage is meant to be then He will allow it to happen and if it’s not then He will turn your heart from it and put obstacles in the way. This way your actions will be guided by Allah and not by the words of someone who may be seeking counsel from somewhere that is Islamically unacceptable. You might also advise your mother to take the same steps too in accordance with Islam. Given that she is a revert to Islam, it may be that she needs educating on the matter and the dangers of fortune tellers.

 

Either way, as well as praying for guidance, also be sure to seek protection from Shaytan and the evil eye. Your situation of finding a good spouse with the support of your family is one that many desire to have so it is possible that you could easily become a victim of the evil eye. Therefore, do remember to always remember Allah in everything you do whilst seeking refuge from Shaytan. Remember to read your morning and evening adhkar to seek protection and remain safe.

 

However, it may also be that this counsellor is actually advising against the dangers of being in a relationship before marriage as you are present, especially if it is that you are meeting with one another alone without your mahram present. In which case, he may be advising for your best interests based on what he knows is pleasing in the eyes of Allah. He is saying that because of this a relationship and marriage to him is not acceptable and you should seek a husband through the means determined in Islam where you will not be in a situation where you are alone together, until after marriage.

 

This is only something that you will be able to know for sure, but is worth considering both potential possibilities and how they might affect the outcome of your marriage in the future. Understanding the intention of the counsellor may also help you greatly in making a decision as to whether it is best to obey your mother and leave the relationship, or continue and leave it to Allah. Consider both potential outcomes and consider the benefits and weaknesses of taking each path. Ultimately, what is most important to you and what will be most pleasing to Allah. Make istikhara during this time of consideration and He will surely guide you to make the best choice.

 

May Allah guide you to make the best decision and grant you a righteous spouse who will bring you happiness and success in this life and the next.