As salamu alaykum  sister,

Shokran for writing to our Live Session.  Alhumdulikah, we are so happy that you like our page and enjoy reading our posts.  Insh’Allah may Allah guide us and be pleased with our efforts.  Regarding your attention to a brother’s posts, it is a good thing that you have found his postings to be Islamically up-building.  As an ummah we are suppose to inspire and build one another up Islamically.  The fact that you are drawn to this man and want to know more about him is natural sister.  There is no sin in that.  In fact as sisters we are suppose to seek out spouses who are practicing Muslims and those who capture our attention by their maturity, morals as well as other things.

Your catching feelings from his words is not a bad thing sister. In fact it could lead to a good thing.  We never know what Allah has for us.  I am wondering, as you are single why are you making duaa to forget him?  Is he married?  If not, please do analyze what it is that is making you uncomfortable.  Are you still getting over a bad marriage?  Are you afraid of getting hurt or rejected?  Do you carry any unresolved trauma, or are you just not interested in marriage at this time?

It is natural to be attracted to a man and want to get to know him for the purpose of marriage providing he is permissible to you and it is done in a halal way.  And by the way sister, it is okay to look at his pictures.  There is nothing wrong with that.  As long as you are not lusting after them or obsessing over them with sexual thoughts, it is okay.  In fact the Prophet (PBUH) told men to go look at the one they intended to marry.  In our daily lives we go to work, school, shopping and we see men everywhere!  We do not get upset about that, yet when we are seriously interested in marriage (maybe not you right now) some people refuse to look at or talk to the person until they are married and that is not what Islam says.  There are things that are haram and things that are permissible.  Looking at his picture to see if he is someone you could be attracted to for marriage is permissible.  Obsessing over it however is not.  A lot of Muslims do not believe in pictures and view them as haram and I cannot comment on this as I am not an Islamic scholar, however you will see that some Muslims do have their photo’s up for Islamic services and event promotion, benefits, employment related information as well as social media,  As I am not an Islamic scholar I cannot comment further on this but I do know the prophet said “The Prophet (ﷺ) said: When one of you asked a woman in marriage, if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her, he should do so. He (Jabir) said: I asked a girl in marriage, I used to look at her secretly, until I looked at what induced me to marry her. I, therefore, married her” (1).  While this is in regards to one who is seeking marriage it is also illustrative that we must first see that which we may pursue for the halal.

Insha’Allah sister, please do look inside of yourself and see what it is that is making you uncomfortable and resolve it.  Secondly, there is no wrong in feeling something for a man based on his worthy Islamic posts, maturity and his pious nature.  Many wonderful introductions leading to marriages have started off by noticing one’s piety and Islamic principles, as it should be.  I would kindly suggest looking at your fears and understanding where they are coming from as well as assess your readiness for a marriage.  I do not recommend that you delete your FB page over this man and your feelings for him.   Insha’Allah, seek to  understand your feelings and seek to gain a resolve and have peace with them.  Perhaps once you are comfortable, introduce yourself  to this man and state you appreciate his Islamic posts and see where it goes.  We never know what Allah has in store for us, nor do we know in our limited ability where it will come from.  Make duaa to Allah that He guide you in His way.   May Allah bless your efforts.  You are in our prayers sister, please let us know how you are doing.

1-https://sunnah.com/abudawud/12/37