As salamu alaykum sister,

 

Shokran for writing into our live session. I am sorry to hear that your boyfriend left you due to having to marry someone else that his family chose for him. As you state that your relationship with him was over six years, I can imagine that must have really hurt. When one is planning on a marriage and waiting for that long, the emotional pain can be devastating. It would be most hard to let go I agree.

 

Allah Knows Best

 

Sister, I’m not sure what your relationship consisted of, however as you know we are not supposed to have boyfriends in Islam. Additionally, he is not Muslim therefore he is not Halal for you to marry. Should he accept Islam because he truly believes it is the one true religion, then he would be permissible for marriage. However, he should not revert to Islam just to marry you. That would be a false action on his part, and no doubt would have consequences spiritually. With that said, I can only advise you to move forward and forget him. I know it’s painful, but time will heal. There is a reason for everything sister, and in Allah’s infinite mercy and love for us, He will close doors of harm.  Allah knows best.

 

Choices and Considerations

 

Insha’Allah, I kindly ask you to repent and ask for forgiveness for getting into a relationship with this man who is also not a Muslim. Should he revert to Islam because he does believe Islam is the true path, then the situation is different. In this case he would be permissible for you to marry. Regarding his parents wanting him to marry someone else, in Islam we are free to marry who we want. Again, if that person is permissible to us. While our parents support, help, and blessings are vital in the marriage process, they cannot prevent their children from marrying somebody who is permissible and who they desire to marry. By the same token, parents cannot force their children to marry someone of their choice if their child does not want to. Your boyfriend does not have to marry the one his parents want him to marry. As an adult and a free person, he can marry who he chooses. the same goes for you.

 

Conclusion

 

I will kindly suggest that you inform him that you cannot marry him because he is not Muslim. You may suggest that he explore Islam to find out if indeed his heart is drawn to the path of Islam. If so, you may also wish to inform him that he is free to marry whoever he chooses. If he does revert to Islam, I kindly suggest that the two of you marry as soon as possible. If he does not revert to Islam after your statement to him, please do cut him off totally and go on with your life. It is hard sister I know, but Allah knows what is best for us and our deen.  You’re in our prayers, we wish you the best.