As-salamu alaykum sister,

Without knowing your specific health issues relating to having a child, it is hard to say what medical options there are. However as you stated you could not carry a child or donate the egg, it appears you have looked into these possibilities know there are no options as this is concerned. I’m not sure how extensively you researched your child bearing status, but if you have not gotten a second opinion I would suggest doing so. It appears you are open to his taking a second wife to have a child however you must also understand that she would also be his wife (as you are) and that would be their child, though I am sure given the right situation and understanding you could be a part of that child’s life in a positive way.

It appears your future husband at this time feels he would like to marry you despite your inability to have children. Many couples consciously decide not to have children (though in Islam not so often) for various reasons. I would kindly suggest dear sister that insha’Allah you start your marriage with happiness, hope and with the intent of having a wonderful marriage wherein this issue of your not being able to have a child is not over-shadowing you and your husband’s bonding and building with each other. As he knows you cannot conceive a child, I would focus on the two of you for now. Possibly in the future as you grow together as well as become more financially stable, you both can discuss a child via a second wife (with you understanding it would be their child) or via caring and raising a child who does not have parents. There are many children in this world who do not have parents due to various reasons, and insha’Allah perhaps Allah SWT will gift you both with the blessing of parenting a child who is alone in the world. But for now dear sister, I would kindly suggest that you and your husband go into this marriage with the intention of building with each other first.

You are in our prayers, please do let us know how you are.