As salamu alaykum,

 

Shokran for writing to our live session with your question. We appreciate your expounding upon your previous question with more detail and a resolution. We are glad alhamduillah that we could be of some assistance with your question and situation. May Allah guide us.

 

It appears that you have made up your mind to move to another country. You would like to leave your children with your soon to be ex-husband as his financial situation is better. Your duty to your children sister is multiple. It would be to take care of them financially to the best of your ability. However as you are leaving them with their father as he is in a better financial situation, that may be hard for you for a while.

 

I would kindly suggest insha’Allah, that if you do decide to move to another country and leave them with their dad, that you keep regular contact with them. That is part of your duty as well. Call them frequently, video chat, send them little gifts, send them letters, and assure them of your love.

 

The main point would be to keep them close to you through correspondence on a regular basis. During your correspondence whether it be through the mail, phone or video- talk to them about what they are doing in school, news, events, and other regular conversations you would have with them. Also talk to them about Islam, Allah, and family structures, helping them to understand that for these types of situations Allah knows best. As stated above, the other important factor is ensuring them of your love for them.

 

You don’t want them to think that you were leaving them because you want to, nor do you want them to think that is their fault. Please do assure them that you are not abandoning them, but that you are creating a better life for them so that they can be with you soon insha’Allah. It will not be easy on you nor the children, but insha’Allah, you can be reunited soon.

 

As you are leaving your children with your soon-to-be ex-husband, sister I would kindly suggest that you discuss with him your intentions of keeping in close contact with the children on a regular basis when the time is right. You do not want him to think that you do not intend to do that. Nor do you want him to try to cut off communication in the future. I will kindly suggest also insha’Allah, that if you do this, that you seek legal representation and advice. You may want to ask a legal representative about getting something in writing such as a contract concerning your contact with the children. Insha’Allah, this would ensure that in the future their father cannot cut off communication once you leave.

 

Sister, it sounds like you have made some solid choices and are looking forward to starting a new life. Please do make duaa to Allah to guide, protect, and help you in your mission. I am sure sister that once you get settled and adjusted, things will work out very well for you and the children. We wish you the best you are in our prayers.