I Lost My Mom and Am Having a Hard Time Coping with It

26 July, 2020
Q My mother was not just my mother, but also my best friend. She passed away 3 weeks ago and since then I've not been able to stop crying.

Every passing day, I feel more physical weakness and more grief. I am reading the Qur'an, offering namaz and making duas, but I still experience anxiety.

At times where my temperature rises up or sometimes I see dreams where I see the alternate reality of my mother being alive and it causes me to wake up in panic.

Everyday I think of the day when she passed away right in front of me and it causes me a lot of pain.

I want to know what I could do in this situation from Islamic perspective as well as in regular day-to-day life.

Answer

In this counseling video:

Alhamdulillah you’re doing all the correct things by reading Quran, and praying. Keep it up.

Getting closer to Allah is the most effective way of getting over with your grief.

Try reducing your levels of stress.

To avoid any physical anxiety, eat well and exercise. Keep yourself healthy.

Continue making dua for your mom.

Talking about her with others will help in lessening your grief.

Take this situation as a reminder about this life as being temporary.

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Salam,

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About Hannah Morris
Hannah Morris is a mum of 4 and she currently works as Counsellor and Instructor of BSc. Psychology at the Islamic Online University (IOU). She obtained her MA degree in Psychology and has over 10 years of experience working in health and social care settings in the UK, USA, and Ireland. Check out her personal Facebook page, ActiveMindCare, that promotes psychological well-being in the Ummah. (www.facebook.com/activemindcare)