Can My Husband and I Reconcile After Khul`?

01 September, 2020
Q I have taken khul` from my husband due to his continuous ferocious behavior and domestic violence. My iddah period has also finished. Now, few relatives of my ex-husband family want the reconciliation because of the kids involved and they want me to keep living at my parent's house after reconciliation and everything will happen in future as per my wish according to those relatives of my ex-husband. So, what do you suggest me? If I have to reconcile for the sake of kids, so will I be held accountable in the court of Allah, for living on my own terms separately from my husband even being in his marriage due to his family pressure of reconciliation?

Answer

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. 

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.


In this fatwa:

If the family relatives can guarantee that you would be living on your terms away from your husband for the sake of your children, there is nothing wrong if you choose to reconcile khul` that as long as you still maintain conjugal relations.


In responding to your question, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:

You do not have to tolerate the abuse of your husband. So, you have the right to choose to divorce him through seeking khul` (divorce at the request of the wife).

If, however, you have been given assurance by the parties, who are trying to settle the dispute between you and your husband, and they have suggested the formula that you would be living on your terms away from him for the sake of your children, there is nothing wrong if you choose to accept that as long as you still maintain conjugal relations.

I would advise you to turn to Allah for solace and comfort through dhikr and recitation of the Quran. And never give up praying to Allah to change the heart of your husband so that he realizes the enormity of sins he is committing. People can change, with the help of Allah if they can motivate themselves.

I pray to Allah to bring you relief and comfort.

Almighty Allah knows best.

About Sheikh Ahmad Kutty
Sheikh Ahmad Kutty is a Senior Lecturer and an Islamic Scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada