Q I've been married for 17 years. We have 4 children and life has been pretty tough as the children were very close to the age. My husband never helped around. His only duty was to work. He will give me money and holidays. We didn't need anything. However, as the years past and the children growing I started to feel extremely frustrated for his lack of involvement in our life. He has never taken the kids to their activities letting me struggling to find a parent to take them while taking the other children. He always managed to take time when it's for his own benefit. He is not interested at all. I started to argue with him on a daily basis as I have no friends at all nor family (family ties cut) to speak to. I offered him on many occasions to leave but he refuses. I have nowhere to go and he just doesn't care about me going in a hostel with the kids. My problem is with the years I think I don't like him anymore. I tried everything but nothing works. I asked him to separate (so we can see if this is really what I want and he might also find happiness) but he refuses to leave the home. At this stage, as I have none to speak to, I tried so hard to find women in vain. I started to chat and then yes I was very close to committing zina which made me dislike him even more and started to like the feeling of chatting and flirting. What should I do? My youngest is 10 the oldest is 15.