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Arranged Marriage: I Wanted Someone Who Leads Me to Jannah

21 February, 2024
Q Assalamu alaikum

My issue is with my wife, she doesn’t care about her prayers. She shouts at me when I wake her up for Fajr. Before marriage she told me that she is religious. It was an arranged marriage. She discouraged me from praying while we were traveling. The prayers are never on her schedule, she does it only when everything is perfect.

I am really sad, I ever prayed to gift me a wife who would help me on the way to God. I feel helpless and sad.

In fact, she loves me. But I need a spouse who will lead me to Jannah. This is very hard for me. I can’t divorce her due to society customs and I am not sure I will get another girl as I am financially poor and not handsome. Please pray for me.

Answer

Some people may not recognize the importance of prayer and the dangers of not praying regularly.

What can you do to have a wife who leads you to Jannah? Be the one who shows her the way to Allah!

It matters how you do that, as, probably, the more you insist, the more she will resist. 

Take care of not being harsh or demanding when you remind her of the value of prayer.

Invite her, share your prayers and daily worship at home. Go to the masjid and Islamic gatherings together. 

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.