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My Daughter Does Not Observe Ramadan, Help!

23 March, 2024
Q My daughter smokes weed, she is not fasting and not reading Quran so I need help because its Ramadan.


As a mother, your fear of Allah for her is understandable, but it is she who has to make the decision and turn to Allah to change her heart for the better.

As she is grown up, probably she knows very well that what she is doing is wrong.

Too much scolding will automatically put her on defense.

In order to get her to comply, you need to keep her in a neutral mode, when she is more willing to listen to your advice instead of rejecting it.

Try to approach her in a kind and understanding way. First, ask for a little, then a little more.

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This might make her think about her faults and agree to participate gradually in the worship during Ramadan and beyond.

What else can you try? Check out the answer here.

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.