My Parents Won’t Let Me Fast, What Should I do?

03 May, 2019
Q I am a new Muslim. I am a teenager and living at home, and am having a problem with my parents accepting my choice to convert to Islam. This is becoming a huge fight with them as Ramadan comes closer. My parents are telling me that they refuse to allow me to fast. What can I do?

Answer

Short Answer: Well, the best thing I can recommend is that if this person has money and can spend, to give one meal for one poor person for each day of the fast. And that will count in lieu of the fast, seeing that he’s under or she is under the situation of compulsion or great difficulty. But as much as the person can practice fasting as well, even for a short period of time, one should do that. Not as an obligation, but as a way of preparing oneself to fast in the years to come when one is freed of this kind of compulsion.

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Dr. Shabir Ally addresses this question in the video below:

Transcript:

Aisha Khaja: So, Dr. Shabir, the question is about Ramadan. A 16-year-old convert is saying parents aren’t allowing this person too fast and they’re looking to shorten their fast. Is that allowed?

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Dr. Shabir Ally: Well, the best thing I can recommend is that if this person has money and can spend, to give one meal for one poor person for each day of the fast. And that will count in lieu of the fast, seeing that he’s under or she is under the situation of compulsion or great difficulty.

But as much as the person can practice fasting as well, even for a short period of time, one should do that. Not as an obligation, but as a way of preparing oneself to fast in the years to come when one is freed of this kind of compulsion.


Editor’s Note: For many new Muslims, dealing with family can present challenges. But do not think you are alone. The Prophets of Allah all suffered great oppression at the hands of their peoples. Even the companions of the Prophet (PBUH) faced challenges that you today are facing and worse.

It might help to read these stories of the prophets and the companions and take heart that you are not alone in your path. The best of humanity have been where you are. Also always remember that Allah promises: 

{Indeed with the difficulty there is an ease. Indeed with the difficulty there is an ease.} (Ash-Sharh 94:5-6)  

I hope this helps answer your question. Please keep in touch if you have any other questions.

Walaikum Asalam.

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