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I Am Afraid of My Dreams

22 January, 2017
Q As-salamu Alayakum. I am a 31-year-old female. I got married almost a year ago. I am expecting a baby in about seven weeks. The problem is that I am very afraid to die and leave my baby. Dying is sunnat al-hayah (a normality of life) and the idea of dying did not scare me before. But now, it is because of the fear of losing my baby. The reason behind those fears are three dreams I dreamt lately, the interpretation of which made me come to this conclusion. I wanted to ask you actually about their interpretation, but then I read on your site that I should not tell a bad dream to anybody. Should I tell you the dreams to help me? (I did tell to three of my friends already.) The problem is that usually my dreams come true. Two years ago, my dad had cancer and my 33-year-old brother died. Six months before all this happened I used to have two dreams, the interpretation of which was that something very bad would happen. A year ago, before my marriage, I used to dream that there were worries in front of me, and that's what happened, as after three months of my marriage my husband lost his job and now we are sunk in debts. Now I am afraid that the dreams I am having are true, and the only thing that scares me is to leave my baby. I am afraid I will die during my delivery. I need to know because I want to make a will and there are some money issues I want to resolve before I die. Please help me.

Answer

Asalamu Alaikum Mona, 

Thank you very much for your question and for putting your trust in us. 

When I first read your question, I thought what you are asking about was only a fear of almost every mother who is about to give birth.

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I’m not looking down on your fears, dear sister, but I was just trying to figure out the reason why you are thinking these things. 

Regarding the dreams—whether good or bad—I feel that the idea of believing in the dreams is making you obsessed and controlling your mind, and consequently your life. Allah Almighty says in the Quran:

{Surely Allah is He with Whom is the knowledge of the hour, and He sends down the rain and He knows what is in the wombs; and no one knows what he shall earn on the morrow; and no one knows in what land he shall die; surely Allah is Knowing, Aware.} (Luqman 31:34)

This verse should make you focus on two other important ideas in your life.

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1. Allah Almighty is the only One Who knows the future.

Let me ask you a very simple question, if a person were able to know his or her future, either good or bad, would that future satisfy him or her?

The human being will never be satisfied, simply because he or she always seeks the best. Allah Almighty says what means:

{Say: I do not control any benefit or harm for my own soul except as Allah please; and had I known the unseen I would have had much good and no evil would have touched me; I am nothing but a warner and the giver of good news to a people who believe.} (Al-A`raf 7:188)

If a person thought deeply about this verse he or she’d have very strong faith that nothing bad will happen to him, so he or she needs to trust and think only good of Allah, the Omniscient, the Most Merciful.

2. The matter of death should not make you obsessed, because only Allah knows where, how, and when a person is going to die.

Dearest sister, you need to have faith that Allah won’t “order” except what is good for you. That’s why Muslims should believe in qadr (destiny). 

This is what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) instructed us to do in the situation of seeing a bad dream. Narrated Abu Salama:

I used to see a dream which would make me sick till I heard Abu Qatada saying, “I, too, used to see a dream which would make me sick till I heard the Prophet saying, ‘A good dream is from Allah, so if anyone of you sees a dream which pleases him, he should not tell anybody about it except the one whom he loves, and if he sees a dream which he dislikes, then he should seek refuge with Allah from its evil and from the evil of Satan, and spit three times (on his left) and should not tell anybody about it, lest it might harm him.’” (Al-Bukhari)

Regarding writing your will: Every Muslim should write his or her will because none of us knows when we’ll die. This has nothing to do with seeing dreams. No one knows when he or she will die; thus, we should all have our will written down. 

Thank you again for your question and please keep in touch. May Allah bless you and your child and grant you many happy years together.

Walaikum Asalam

Please continue feeding your curiosity, and find more info in the following links:

Interpretation of Dreams: Islamic View

Seeing The Unseen?

Dreams in Islam

3 Steps to Prepare for Death