Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

You need to exercise patience and treat your mother with mercy and kindness. Allah orders us to pray to Him: My Lord, have mercy on my parents even as they were merciful to me when I was little.”

 

Imagine how patient your mother was towards you when you were a child. She bore everything patiently and attended to all of your needs without complaining.

 

That is what we need to keep in mind when we grow up, and our parents attain old age.

 

Allah, therefore, tells us to remember as our parents reach old age, we cannot expect them to be patient as before. That is why Allah orders us to guard against all expressions of protest or disgust while interacting with them:

 

“For Your Lord has ordained that you shall worship none but Him. And do good unto [thy] parents.  Should one of them, or both, attain to old age in thy care, never say “Ugh”(inArabic, uff – a word or sound indicative of contempt, dislike or disgust to them or scold them, but [always] speak unto them with reverent speech, and spread over them humbly the wings of thy tenderness,  and say: “O my Lord! Bestow Your grace upon them, even as they cherished and reared me when I was a child!” (Al-Israa’ 17: 23-24)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.