Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

Many men think that paying bills for the household and not causing direct harm to family members is a fair deal for a wife to enjoy. They really do not put effort to upgrade this relationship into a true intimate one bringing souls next to each other like how close friends are.

 

Your husband needs counselling with you for I think he needs help himself too from the stresses of life that he is experiencing next to you. Maybe it is the worries in his mind that is making him limit the relationship with you and seek other ways to enjoy relief.

 

If he refuses and you end up with options of change on his side, then it will be your task to make better of yourself and spirit. It will be hard to be positive and objective with no support from husband but you can pull enough strength to enjoy matters even solo with your kids and close family members or friends around you.

 

At the same time, keep the good mood around your husband and look for things he likes to do and enjoy and see how you  can join him in it to be part of that which is of his interest.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.