As salaam alaikum,

This sounds like it can be a struggle for you as a parent! May Allah grant ease for you. Ameen

Let’s see what we can do to change this experience for each of you! InshaAllah. I bet this interaction with your child feels horrible and exhausting.

First, I recommend developing an after school plan with your child! This allows you and your child to collectively plan the routine for the day. Your child knows what you expect daily and they have input! Work together to make a clear schedule.

Also, while you may feel like a Drill Sergeant, stay very close or sit beside your child while doing homework. I tell parents whatever grade your son or daughter is in, so are you! He or she needs to know you hold them accountable. It may require you to be fully engaged with them and as your child shows progress Witt increased attention span, you can leave him or her for 15 minute intervals and then, check in again.

Next, offer your child items to manipulate or fidget with while doing homework! This extra energy has to go somewhere. Use stress balls. Offer play dough. If a little boy spends 2 minutes making an airplane from play dough, but you also get 10-15 minutes of focus from him in exchange, it’s worth it!

Lastly, background noise can also soothe the inattentiveness of some children. Play appropriate children’s songs or white noise. You can find apps that play noises such as a hair dryer, washing machine or a heart beat! Kids love these noises! Find 1 or 3 your child may have delight in!

InshaAllah, I’m praying for your good. Parenting has so much joy and this  issue appears to be a test for you. Try some of these tips. Thank you!