as salamu Alaykum sister,

Shokran for writing into our live session with your most important issue.  I am so sorry to hear of your husband’s infidelity, haram actions as well as you being the victim by getting STD’s.  As you havbe only been married a year and you have no children yet, you have some serious thinking to do.  As your marriage started off poorly with him cheating, you have every right to divorce.  While our goal is to save marriages as Allah does hate divorce if you decide to divorce you are within your rights.

I would kindly suggest that you think deeply about your marriage and if you would like to try to save it.  Please make istakharra prayer regarding this most important decision.  If so, it will take the both of you-your husband and you to commit to saving your marriage.  I would kindly suggest if you do, that you both go for marriage counseling as well as attend the Masjid for prayers and Islamic events and friendships.  When couples pray together, have other Muslim couples as friends and build their marriage on an Islamic foundation, there tends to be better outcomes.  In regards to counseling I would kindly suggest that your husband commit to not cheating as well as go for individual counseling to find out what it is inside of himself that makes him cheat.  His cheating has nothing to do with you sister but is a reflection of his own insecurities as well as his disconnection from Allah.

Should he or you not want to commit to saving the marriage, please do seek out the counsel of an imam for divorce proceedings.  I know this is painful sister, but your life is at stake-literally.  If you  remain married to him and he continues to cheat, not only are you at risk for repeated STD’s but you are at risk for one of the most deadliest STD, HIV.   You are blessed in that so far the STD’s he gave you were treatable.  The next time you may contract something that is more deadly and is a lifelong incurable disease severely impacting your quality of life.  Please think hard sister, you are in our prayers, we wish you the best.