Perhaps you are having unrealistic expectations about your marriage partner. Since there is no ideal man or ideal woman, one has to consider the most important criteria for choosing a marriage partner and overlook the rest.

 

Be honest and recognize the fact that you are not perfect; likewise, you cannot expect the man you choose to marry to be perfect.

 

That is why the Prophet (peace be upon him): “If a person with sound faith and character proposes to marry him; otherwise you are paving the way for corruption in the land.”

 

If you find yourself always rejecting men without much thought or consideration and cannot explain reasons why you do so, then you may do well to speak to a specialist. Perhaps your physician can refer you to one. You may have some phobia or emotional scars related to your early childhood.

 

As for the Islamic view whether marriage is obligatory for everyone, I cannot do any better than citing here one of my previous answers:

 

“Although marriage is generally considered a highly recommended act, yet from the point of view of fiqh (Islamic jurisprudence)—because of diverse circumstances—it can readily fall into one of the four categories listed below: Fard (obligatory) or mustahabb (recommended) or haram (forbidden) or simply halal (permitted).

 

Marriage is considered fard (obligatory) if a person is so tormented by sexual desire that he/she fears falling into the sin of fornication. Since staying away from fornication is obligatory, and since marriage is the only avenue for legitimate sexual satisfaction, it becomes obligatory on such a person to get married. This is based on the principle in jurisprudence that says: “If an obligatory thing cannot be fulfilled except by fulfilling another, then fulfilling the latter becomes equally obligatory.”

 

If, however, he or she is not so tormented by sexual desire, and, hence, there is no fear of falling into sin, then it is highly recommended to get married if one has the means to do so. By doing so, one is fulfilling one of the great Sunnahs of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), our perfect role model.

 

If a person knows for certain that he or she cannot fulfill the duties required in marriage, and there is no fear of his/her falling into sin, then it becomes haram for such a person to get married. Islam forbids us from doing injustice to another person; this would definitely be the case if one were to neglect his/her spousal duties.

 

If a person has no means to marry and is, therefore, incapable of fulfilling his spousal duties, but has strong desire, it is permitted for him to get married—provided he tries earnestly to seek an honest source of living. Allah has promised to help such a person. We must also add here a further note that the Muslim community has a duty to assist such people until such time that they become self-reliant.

 

If, however, no such measures are available, and a person finds himself unable to fulfill his spousal duties, he is advised to curb his desires through the discipline of fasting and other acts of sublimation.”

 

Almighty Allah knows best.