If he uttered these words in a state of extreme anger and he had no prior intention of divorcing you, then the divorce did not take place.

 

If your husband never had the intention to divorce you and never even contemplated divorcing you and he made the above statement in a state of extreme anger, then it cannot be deemed as a valid divorce.

 

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Actions are judged by intentions.” Moreover, you stated that you made the statement in a state of extreme anger.

 

The Prophet (peace be upon him) is reported to have said, “There is no (valid) divorce in an extreme state of anger”.

 

He said so because, in such a state, a person is not in his right mind; rather he may be unsure and unaware of his words and actions.

 

In this sense, he is no different than a drunkard whose actions are not considered valid in Islam. Since marriage in Islam is a solemn contract, it cannot be invalidated by such whimsical words or actions.

 

If there are outstanding issues between you and your husband and you are not able to sort them out, you should resort to counseling. If you can find qualified and knowledgeable people who have experience in the field then get their help. That is the way to deal with problems in marriage rather than resorting to emotional outbursts and using the word of talaq to intimidate or take revenge.

 

Using the words of Talaq in this way is akin to jesting with the laws of Allah which are instituted for the purpose of restoring justice, equity and balance in settling human affairs.

 

May Allah guide all of us to be truthful in our words and actions and may He save us all against the evil inclinations embedded in our nature – Ameen.

 

For details, please refer to the answers posted on this site.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.