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Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
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Islam enjoins husbands to deal with their wives with kindness, decency, and fairness. Intimacy is a mutual right for both husband and wife. This has been best summed up in the Qur’anic imperative, “And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them in kindness…” (Al-Baqarah 2:228)
Therefore, a husband should not deny himself to his wife and the wife also should not deny herself to her husband. They should do their best to satisfy their marriage partner. A husband, who without any genuine reason, neglects his wife’s needs is as sinful as a wife who neglects her husband’s needs without any excuse.
The right of the wife to have her physical needs fulfilled by her husband is so well recognized in Islam that no husband should deny his wife this right even if he is involved in worship and devotion.
When the Prophet heard that `Abdullah ibn `Amr ibn Al-`As used to fast during the day and offer prayers all the night, he said to him, “O `Abdullah, don’t do that. Fast for a few days and then give it up for a few others. Offer Prayers and go to sleep. For your body has a right on you, your wife has a right on you, and your guest has a right on you…” (ِAl-Bukhari)
In his response to the question in point, Dr. Muzammil H. Siddiqi, former President of the Islamic Society of North America, states,
It is emphasized in Islam that a husband should not deny his wife’s physical needs. Both of them are related to each other, as Allah says in the Qur’an, “They are a garment for you and you are a garment for them…” (Al-Baqarah 2:187) A husband who, without any genuine reason, neglects his wife’s needs is as sinful as a wife who neglects her husband’s needs without any excuse. The husband and the wife both should care for each other in all matters, whether they are moral and spiritual or financial and physical. The relationship between the husband and wife should be based on what the Qur’an says, “love and compassion.” (Al-Rum 30:21)
Allah Almighty knows best.