Wa alaikum salaam wa rahmatulahi wa barakatuh,

 

May Allah reward you for trying to take you away from something that is not permitted in Islam. I’m sure as her husband that you are only looking out for her and her Deen and are aware that her job will not serve in her favour on the Day of Judgment. As her spouse, you would also be held accountable for this so to guide her away from it is the correct thing to do.

 

It is unfortunate that she is not taking this so well as has even gone as far as publicly rebuking you for your actions.

 

Of course, if she is refusing to change and you know you will be accountable for allowing her to continue in a haram job you have the grounds for divorce, however, marriage is a valued institution in Islam and we must do our best to protect it first before making such an extreme decision. Therefore, it is suggested that you take some other steps that might help resolve the situation and your marriage first.

 

Understand why she feels this way. Talk to her gently about why you are. Sympathize with her about the prospect of leaving a job that she feels well settled it, but let her know that you fear for how Allah will judge her for doing what she is doing. Let her know that it is not about you trying to control her, that it’s about you wanting what’s best for her.

 

Seek counselling or religious intervention ideally to educate her on the dangers of her job. Perhaps hearing such from a scholar will convince her more. This is something you can do together so that she can feel like you are supporting her. Once she comes to realize the unfavorable nature of her job perhaps she will make the decision to leave herself. Clearly she feels like you are pushing her around and she doesn’t like that. Even though you are doing it for her benefit, she seems to be taking it in a less caring way. It seems she doesn’t want to feel someone is making this choice for her, so if she can be encouraged to do so of her own volition then in sha Allah she will step down from her job with without a fight.

 

Support her and help her in finding a new job that is more suitable. Finding a job dn applying for multiple jobs, the process of going through interviews can be pretty stressful so its little wonder she wants to avoid going through all that. However, if you show her some support, help her with the job hunt, it will ease this burden for her as well as letting her know that you are with her, supporting her through this difficult time. This will be good not only for her, but also in building relations between you.

 

At least if you try all these things and she is still unresponsive and aggressive and seems to have no inclination to change you can feel confident that you have tried everything to make the relationship work then you could walk away knowing that for the sake for your marriage and Allah you have done everything you can.

 

Many spouses may ignore such matters for the sake of peace in their marriage, but for the sake of pleasing Allah you are speaking up on the matter. May Allah reward your persistence for His sake.