As salamu alaykum,

 

Shokran for writing to our live session with your question. The internet can be both a positive aspect for children as well as a negative. There are a lot of good educational sites that are Islamically geared for children. They can learn much from the tutorials and fun lessons this can provide in their spare time. The internet can also add to their academic education, given the host of learning sites and tools. However, with so many people walking around with cell phones as an extension of their hand, it is alarming. Given the dangers of children freely browsing the internet, much danger lurks in chat rooms, online forums, porn sites and so forth.

 

Setting Limits

 

I kindly suggest that insha’Allah, you first talk to the children about what is, and is not permissible in an age appropriate language. Discuss Islamic guidelines using a list (children like visuals) of what is haram and what is permissible to look at online. You may want to restrict certain websites or set the computer/phone to “Family Friendly”. You can also create a list of sites that are only permissible to access. Have them sign a contract that they will abide by these rules. While a contract may sound silly, it does serve to act as little “subconscious” reminders.

 

Human Interaction

 

I would suggest insha’Allah, that you also set a time limit on their online activity. Chose an amount of time per week (or day) in which they can be online. Try to be present if possible when they are using it. Enourage them to read a book, talk to family and friends, rather than text or use the internet. Today’s teens have lost some communication skills as they have been raised in a “virtual” world. By expressing the importance for real life contact and interaction, insha’Allah they will come to look at online activities as an after thought rather than a normal way to communicate.

Conclusion

 

Encourage your children to talk to you about any concerns they may have concerning appropriate Islamic internet use. If they feel comfortable and secure coming to you or another family member, then insha’Allah should anything questionable take place, they will know they can tell you without fear of being judged. The goal insha’Allah, is to keep them safe while online and adhering to Islamic guidelines. If these values are instilled from a young age, insha’Allah they will use the internet responsibly. We wish you the best.