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Did You Really Forgive That Person?

 … And let them pardon and overlook. Would you not like that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. (Quran 24:22)

I read many times over this verse, but one day I really reflected on it. Allah created us and He knows what is best for us. This is something we often seem to forget. He knows it can be very hard to really forgive someone who hurts you and in this verse we are given the greatest motivation to push ourselves to forgive; it’s Allah’s forgiveness.

Forgive to Be Forgiven!

Allah is telling us here what the big motivator is for us suppressing our nafs (ego) and forgiving other people, even when they don’t even ask for our forgiveness.

We do it for Allah.

That is the importance of forgiveness. There’s no space for a big ego if you want to be forgiven by Allah.

When we think of forgiveness we mostly think of Allah’s forgiveness and we forget how important it is that we also forgive. We need to remember both, because if we don’t forgive we do wrong in our relationship with Allah as well as in our relationships with each other. How can we expect Allah to forgive us, while we are not even willing to forgive others?

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The Benefits of Forgiving Others

American scientists recently discovered that stress-related backache, insomnia and stomachaches were significantly reduced among individuals who had the habit of forgiving others.

So forgiving others improves your physical ability and lightens your heart, which makes it the recipient of a great source of reward from Allah— also an amazing productivity tip!

The Struggle, the Reward

Our journey to the Hereafter is full of difficulties and tests, this is our way to prove who we are and this process includes injustice being done to us at the hands of others. If we truly want Allah’s love and forgiveness we must remember that the hurts of this world are only temporary.

Look at this beautiful treasure:

I guarantee a house in Jannah (Paradise) for one who gives up arguing, even if he is in the right; and I guarantee a house in the middle of Jannah for one who abandons lying even for the sake of fun; and I guarantee a house in the highest part of Jannah for one who has good manners. (Abu Dawud)

To motivate us to be the first in showing our good behavior, there is a beautiful hadith. How many of us know that it is not allowed to be in an argument and keep away from another Muslim for more than three days?

The Prophet said:

It is not permissible for a man to forsake his Muslim brother for more than three days, each of them turning away from the other when they meet. The better of them is the one who gives the greeting of salaam first. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

To Conclude

Forgiving others is crucial for our success in the Hereafter; one forgives to seek forgiveness. But forgiving others also brings lots of physical and spiritual benefits in this world!

To inspire us to fight our ego and really try to forgive with our hearts and not only with our lips, Abu Sa’id al Khudri reported the Prophet as saying:

When the believers pass safely over (the bridge across) Hell, they will be stopped at a bridge (the siraat)  between Hell and Paradise where they will retaliate against one another for the injustices done among them in the world, and when they are purified of all their sins, they will be admitted to Paradise. By Him in Whose hands the life of Muhammad is, everybody will recognize his dwelling in Paradise better than he recognizes his dwelling in this world. (Al-Bukhari)

So think about Allah, your Most Beloved, and think about your ego. The choice is yours.

Source: Understand Quran.

About Khawlah bint Yahya
Khawlah b. Yahya founded SISTERS' PROJECT in 2008, a United Kingdom women's support organization and is a writer for different Islamic organizations and academies. She authored the renown How to Live by the Names of Allah Series, published by the Understand Qur'an Academy, as well as the internationally shared Revive a Sunnah Series. She focuses most of her work on how to translate classic Islamic Knowledge to daily life action. She recently released Personal Lessons from the Qur'an, in which daily life action points are based on Qur’anic ayaat in a way that’s never seen before. You can now purchase the E-book on: