We have to deeply invest our emotions in our spouse. Marriage is give and take. It is not just about ticking boxes. It is not just about the fiqhi aspects of marriage.
Don’t focus on the negatives with your spouse. Always look at the positives. If you are going to be constantly negative then you may end up with no one around you!
Mufti Abdur-Rahman ibn Yusuf has some wonderful practical tips to help you gain compassion and mercy in marriage.